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ME TOO! You have yourself a fantastic birthday and do NOT let buttwipe take you down my friend! (((Serenity)))

I appreciate all you coming (((((Hugs)))) Below I will break it down for you word for word (it is long)...

It started because once again I received a text from oldest S letting me know what time youngest S was going to be picked up on Sunday - Remember I put my foot down a couple of weeks ago on this...Here goes...

M - I have asked you kindly not to involve C (older S) in your request to see N (younger S). That is between you and I.

H - It was a simple question about going to the xxx...We do something every other Sunday.

M - Again it shouldn't come from C. I have told you we have Church until 2 so I don't understand why you want him right in the middle of Church service.

H - If you are going to drag him to your Church you can explain why he doesn't see his Dad...I come at that time because it is right after our Church...I have time to get him and spend some time with him and C...Sorry for the inconvenience.

M - Don't act like that - The inconvenience you layed on me is never speaking to him during the week and thinking 4 hours a month seeing him is a good thing.

H - C is staying out of trouble and doing well in school...again (not sure where this came from) <---That is me since I didn't initiate this conversation. Kinda hard with school and work (in response to seeing N more then 4 hours a month)

M - You could call him every once in awhile...You are off on Weds. and he gets out early once a month...You could make more of an effort yet you choose to ignore him except for every other Sunday for a whole 2 hours if he is lucky...

H - Like I said before...You will see the end result...Is 11 a no go...Yes or no?

H - Not like he has a cell I can call him on...Don't want to talk to anyone else.

M - (responding about older S in school over there) Yet he is ready to come back...He isn't happy anywhere right now however I let him know he has to finish school and get off probation...This is temporary.

M - All you have to do is let me know a time and I will have him call you...You don't have to be so hateful.

H - He can call anytime he wants.

H - 11...yes or no?

H - C will stay here...Don't want him bordering on juvenille detention because you can't control him.

M - (Responding on N seeing him) Only because he wants to see you however please bring him back when I am back from Church and not before. I am here by about 2pm.

M - (Responding on C living there) You don't have that call in the state. He is old enough to make his own choice or didn't your cracker jack box lawyer tell you that? (Yes now we get ugly)

H - Try my best.

M - Your best isn't good enough where your little one is concerned...You may want to get a new lawyer...One with degrees on the wall.

H - Not worried about lawyer...Judge has say so in his best interest...You can't parent him...That is obvious.

M - We will see about that...If you were doing such a great job he would be happy but he isn't.

H - Whatever...Seems happy to me...See N at 11.

M - Go with that...How you look yourself in the mirror is beyond me...I totally appreciate you breaking every promise you ever made and I will say this, the sins of you as their Father will not be passed down, I promise you that.

H - Is your name Jesus and I don't know? Let me know when you become free of sin everyday.

M - I don't cheat. I don't commit adultery on a daily basis. I don't break apart my childrens' lives for my own selfish reasons.

H - But you do sin everyday...That is just the facts...You would like to think you are perfect.

M - I know I am not perfect and I own that...I never claimed to be perfect...I know you aren't perfect...Everyone sins, everyone makes mistakes...The difference is I am willing to repent and turn AWAY from a life of sin whereas you aren't. I honor our covenant marriage...The marriage we made in the eyes of God...You do not...You think God wants you to do this to your family? Read Malachi in your Bible.

H - It will be over as soon as I have the money for the lawyer...Then I won't be living with that sin.

M - To break what He joined together has you living in sin until the day you die...Divorced or not I at least honored you as my H and can always hold my head up, you won't ever be able to say the same. Ask your preacher...Why are you so hellbent on destroying what we have?
H - Don't love you

M - Keep telling yourself that and eventually you may believe. I will have N ready.

The end - Go ahead and 2x4 away. Tired

I will not bash you because I know you needed to get that stuff out but what did it accomplish? It just made YOU feel bad in the end.

Don't cry Serenity...it's gonna be ok

Oh, SD.
Perfect.
Absolutely perfect!And funny as Hell, too!(under the circumstances)

That mother sucker needed all of that, BUT...

I'm pretty sure that didn't do YOU any good!!

HUGS GIRLIE!!!

Oh, jiminy cricket, I'm sorry you had to go thru that.

I hope you were able to get on with your day and your birthday.

Up and down, round and round--we will all get through this together.

Many hugs-

(((Serenity)))And one more thing. You got a lot out of your system there. And he was both holier than thou, belittling and defensive. He's beginning to understand he doesn't own - or control - your feelings anymore.
Just don't backslide and let him think he does again.
Love to you, strong friend!

(((((Gardener)))))

And this is a good thing? Love to you my friend

(((((Serenity)))))
I don't think you did anything wrong... but next time I think it would be nice to not take the bait. I think that will make your point even better than engaging him.

HUGS!

(((((VH)))))

Thank you for your kind words...I appreciate you not beating me over the head either

No bait next time - No bait next time...I will keep repeating this until I get it through my skull.