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Custody rules and visitation vary greatly State by State. You're right you need a lawyer and the sooner the better. I would think that most States would be favorable to a petition for at least your temporary sole custody with supervised visitation for your H based soley on who he is keeping company with. Take whatever proof you have with you to the lawyer to justify your case and best of luck.

My son is with me now and has been since day one. H has had him I think once overnight in the last 6 months and that was with his entire family for Christmas.

All the better for your case in securing sole custody. The history of his lack of visitation will work against him if he decides to contest the custody arrangement you propose.

and in the last two years since this all started total maybe 3-4 nights.

I feel like my head is going to explode. There is so much to figure out...financially. It's a mess. First things first, find a good lawyer? I'm going to write down all of bills, balances, etc. Figure things out from there.

I went and spoke with him mom yesterday and told her the reasons as to why I'm at where I'm at. I don't want his family to have a sour taste of me in their mouths even though I know I know I need to worry about me and my son. But we are going to have a relationship forever so ...

Calm down (I know... hard to do) and make a list of things you need to tackle. I think a you need to talk to a lawyer asap. He will be able to giode thru and give suggestions on how things should be done. I assume you keep records of what you read.

Try to be practical now and dont let emotions overrun your logic. Stay strong. I dont know the laws in your country but I am sure you will be able to protect your son.
xxx
Kalni

Right there with you - I have to get H dropped from the car insurance - going to cost me money. I have to get the water changed into my name - going to cost me money. I have to get the electric changed over to my name - going to cost me money. H has given me $80 since he left on January 7th! and I had to almost beg for that!! and told me I did not have to be "B" about it!!

Then he sends me an email today on much filing the paper work will be - I did not have the affair! Why am I paying for all these changes - does he expect me to pay the filing fees!

I am still in the family home with the kids and going to be moving in June when school is out - walking away from the house we are so upside on the house I would never be able to sell.

The amount of money issues this causes is NUTS!

Lostandgone.....yes exactly. I didn't have the affairs...count them three HE DID!

I understand now just today when people say they feel relief when it's done and over with.

And this latest woman....wow...scary. Felon 5x
The man I knew is gone.

WOW!! I am so sorry - my heart goes out to you. This is the first A for my H and I don't know if I am coming or going one minute to the next.

I would make sure he and the latest woman are no where near your child! I told my H that SHE is to be NO WHERE near the kids. The kids know about this (they are teens) as well. I actually found her on his IM and sent her a nice little message - told her to stay away or I will get a court order - she is also married (18 years) with 2 kids - so all this has effected 5 CHILDREN!

I am not sure how or why people do what they do!

Hang in there! Not sure how much advise I can give you since this is SO NEW to me!