I have no expectations because I don't know what the heck is going on. I do know that late March thru April she didn't want to have anything to do with me then the petty excuse phone calls started and now the visits.
I'm going to lay low and see what adventures today brings.
Monday wife texted me at 8PM to ask if my Dad or her Grandma sent D9 as she was really upset that she didn't hear from them for her bday. I texted her back a few minutes later to tell her that she did get some things in the mail. Now keep in mind, kids had been in bed for over a half hour at this point so I don't know why she needed to know at that time. I received a response of OK at 11:30.
The kicker is when the kids came home yesterday, S11 told me that the conversation never happened and D9 wasn't upset at all.
D the crises is hard to read because they want out of the M But they want to keep a connection especially at first I noticed everything my XH did I was always looking for hope sometimes it is confusing all the mixed messages, the talks the calls ect.. you are doing well just continue to watch, be supportive and most importantly take care of yourself, gal peace
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To be honest in the beginning I did but I found out 3 things: 1. It's not fair to the kids 2. It's too painful 3. I was trying to control
I talk to the kids about things pertaining to them. My wife does not listen to them or give them the opportunity to talk about anything. I will listen if they want to tell me about school, going to the zoo, playing in the dirt, whatever it is that they want to talk about. Many times though when it involves my wife or "friend", I will change the subject.
If I know or suspect that one of my kids is upset or bothered by something, I am going to ask regardless of who's involved.
Wife stopped by yesterday to discuss S11's football camp. I gave her the check for the camp. She said she had the registration form. After she left, S11 brings me the form from his bedroom, so I texted her to let her know that S11 would bring it with him today. She replied OK.
She called this morning and left me a voicemail about camp so I called her back. She says "I have the check for camp but I don't have the registration form".
After the first day of camp (today) they have a cookout that parents are invited to attend. S11 told her about this last week. I mentioned it to her this morning and she had no idea what I was talking about.
Nothing really new except what happened yesterday. G texted me to ask for my driver's license #. I of course asked why she wanted that. For court papers. I told her she would have to find another way to get that info. I wasn't helping her to divorce me.
I'm sorry to hear about the latest. I have had something similar happen and I agree with you. Don't make it any easier for her. If she thinks she really wants this and that it is going to be her ticket to happiness (which you know it isn't) then let her do all the work. Good for you.
Man, I'm sorry to hear about work....keep your head up and continue to live for today and today only.
