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Hmmm, don't think I have anything that big since I currently share a 900 sq ft apt with a roommate! LMAO

Somehow, I don't think that's what she meant!

Oh, then could I have something in a 6'0" range?
Gently worn, but no rips.
Could ya just send over Adam Lambert?

Hmmm my baby brother is about 6'0"...not sure I can farm him out though lol

Okay, got locks changed. Got an estimate on the window (need to get another one still).

Did a test paint in the kitchen. Managed not to splatter too much.

Got the color of my tile grout to match it to finish there they didn't.

Spent the rest of the weekend sleeping except a concert last night. University Symphony. All Russian music. It was pretty fun. Went to Thai food with RB first, then the concert, then home to fall into bed before work this am.

No word from XH of course. Shock surprise. He never followed through on his professed intention to give me some of the money he owes me from the 2007 taxes. *rolls eyes* Oh well. He still hasn't shown me anything that says he took my name off his car either. Why does that not surprise me?

Life goes on.

Isn't it amazing how they can still cause greif even when you aren't married to them anymore? It is almost like they want to maintain the connection even though they did everything to break it.

I have got to figure out what color to paint my livingroom. I don't want to live in a cave but my funishing colors are leaning toward brown and black. don't tell me beige or yellow but any other ideas?

kat

I truly believe it's a guilt thing. The reason they play the "let's be friends" game is so they don't have to feel even more guilty about what they did / are doing. It's like being friends / on friendly terms shows empathy/sympathy/forgiveness.

At some stages, I think they love the delusion that they could come back at any time. It makes them feel desirable.

I just had to stop playing that game cuz I couldn't take it anymore. And he didn't figure it out til after the D finalized and I was dating someone else.

Their loss right? If he ever bothers to give me any money, that would be awesome. But I can't say I'm expecting it, so it's not like I have it spent already (although that would be nice spending money for the Hawaii trip in August....)

I was reading a book that said exactly that: men tend to wander forced by their shame (long story to explain, shame of being inadequate) and own other problems but in the back of their mind, (most of them leave when they have another woman lined up or their eye on, because men, need a woman to live their lifes with) they believe or want to believe they can always go back to their nest... Suprisingly, it also says that women dont need a man to live a complete life after a divorce because they are more capable of nurturing all sorts of R, friendhips, family ties etc and get the love they want. It also says that when a woman leaves, and shuts the door she has thought about it a lot and doesnt count on being able to come back...

Hmmm. Interesting. I think MWD talks about that a little. And I've seen it on here too - the chances of a WAW coming back are lower than a WAH coming back.

When I decided to stop DBing and that I was done, it certainly was very final for me.

Kat - how about a light brown? Like, really light, creamy mocha? Would a green work? What about just painting one wall the accent color?

I am thinking about it. I do also have a wall that has a fireplace, so I was thinking of making the opposite wall the accent wall. Does that sound like the right way to go? Also had the idea that on the accent wall I could have the dark color on the top and light color below the chair rail. The rest of the room would be the opposite or should I just go with one solid color with the chair rail breaking it up?

I have thought of like a mocha color so great minds are clicking here!!

kat