I'd say the postives way over balance the negatives in your sitch...as for the phone call and his reaction to you talking about Tals sitch...could be that OW is making this hard on him...ditto for his "upset" when he got to lunch.
But the clear message is: He is WITH YOU, and wants to be with you...is sending signals out to others that makes this very clear.
Hi twin, just passing by to say hello, pretty busy here right now and very very tired:)
I didn't read the rest of the thread since the last time I was here, but I like the lunch and like shiny says it does look like he realizes he wants to be with you. It sounds good to me:):) Going beddy bye now, I promise I'll be here more once I'm finished. Hugs nigthshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "
Optimist! This sounds great to me. She's in a P##y mood when you are there....great. She ought to be. As for the call, it could even have been work related or him telling her to leave him alone...who knows? Don't sweat the small stuff darling when the big stuff is going so well. He had his ring on again? Lovely! Of course it is going to take time for your M to heal...but it sure seems like it's doing just that....and you don't have to tell your folks if you don't want, but I still think it would be a great gesture to your H. And you could be honest with your folks and tell them that you are working on the R...and leave it at that. They may be more understanding than you think...you are still their little girl and they want you to be happy.
Hi Opt. I just caught up with your thread. Yeah for you! Sounds like things are going well.
I am so glad that your H is wearing his ring. It's a simple symbol that means so much. Mine stopped wearing his years ago and it has always bugged me. I hope that someday he will wear it again.
You two spend a lot of time together which is great. Maybe the OW is P***Y because your h's attitude toward her has changed since your revelations. He may be beginning to resent her presence too as he knows it doesn't help your R any.
But all-in-all I am so happy for you.
Thanks for the welcome too!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
Hi Opt, I appreciate you coming by and checking in on my thread from time to time and I'm way to take this long to return the favor.
After catching up on your postings, I can sense the bond between you and your H is getting stronger. You're doing more of what you know works, but also keep in mind what works is a moving target. What did work before may work now, so sometimes its worth revisiting some of what didn't work before. Once you're at a point where you are piecing, crying or being upset should not to be avoid at all cost ... these are human emotions that need expression like any other and it is not meant for us to live without them, but we need to keep them in balance. So don't fear an outburst as bad DBing.
Bad DBing is repeating a pattern where the spouse begins to anticipate your outburst, so its when such outbursts become part of our norm that it pushes the spouse away,
What is it they say? ... everything in moderation.
to take this long to return the favor. 