Hi Opt. When I read your intro to your post about a not-sp-good weekend, I kept waiting for something not-so-good. But I saw a normal busy family in action, illness and all.
So what gives? You spent more time together than the average American family does from what I can tell. Every moment isn't going to look like a Rockwell print, but hey - you love each other - warts and all.
Ask yourself this one - when your D is grumpy do you question why she is acting that way or what her motive is? No. You know that for a 4-year-old - it happens. Well, I have come to realize that my H gets grumpy too. And so do I. But I think "this too shall pass!" and it usually does.
If you H comes home from work stressed out - offer a backrub or something else he likes. Or ask "is there anything I can do to help?".
Did you meet with accountant this week? You mentioned that you might. Could this be causing H stress? Does he want you involved or do you want to be involved?
Sounds to me like your time together at home and on weekends is spent doing family things together. I hope to be in that position sometime soon. So enjoy it - the good definitely appears to outweigh the bad.
I thought of you earlier today as I was out in the garden in 40 degrees and snow pulling brush and digging out small maples and buckthorn to take to a big bonfire. BURRRRRRR! I am still cold!
totite
"Accentuate the positive, eliminate the negative..."
Of course I don't mind anyone stopping by. The more the merrier. I like big parties, just not formal ones!
BTW, you guys could be more right that you know. We had more fireworks this morning.
I woke up again at 6 (Pam, have I caught this from you?) and remembered I had not put away my H's wedding band after D gave it to him. So I started looking for it and could not find it. When he wakes up at 7 I asked him if he had it and he said yes. He got dressed and was leaving when I asked again 'but you have it don't you?' He was pretty upset and exasperated at me and left in a dungeon... I was quite downed by that and started to have all sort of negative thoughts, but went about doing my everyday stuff. At 8:30 he called me to say he was feeling lousy and did I feel the same last weekend (my cold is now mostly gone).
I thought that was his way of apologizing for the overreaction and also wondered whether he was so PO'd last weekend because I was feeling bad (and looking worse) and he took it as my being angry or something with him, when I was just sick. Does that make sense?
No, we still have not gone to the CPA. He has not called him yet.
And it's 74F here and sunny, o frozen ones!
"You don't throw a whole life away just 'cause it's banged up a little"
Tom Smith in "Seabiscuit"
Hey twin:):) I"m trying to read all the posts but there's so much to catch up and Im so darn tired... I"m feeling better tough, and I can move almost normally today which is good.
A for wedding bands.. believe me I just don't really give much about it right now... A few years ago Rui cut his hand bad. His wedding band got caugh on a metal cabinet and he had to get 12 stitches. After that I told him not to wear it when working. But he kept wearing it always. He was wearing it throughout the first affair... and the second... Atually just before this second affair he got us new wedding bands. He know I don't like gold that much, or rather the yellow. Most my stuff is silver or white gold which is a much nicer color for me LOL In any case and although it was not the right time yet - in marriage years - last june for our wedding anniversary he got us both new wedding bands, not yellow I felt so good when I got them, I thought to myself that this was it... he was sure now and things would never happen again.... this was June 21st... July 18 his second affair was starting!!!! Now I don't know where this came from.. it was from your post about h's wedding band.... ANyways, I'm going beddy bye now Many hugs nightshade
"Each and every one of us is deserving of a kind word, a gentle thought and the gift of understanding. "
Hi, Opt. Well, things seem a bit up and down for you right now, but that is Life, isn't it? Maybe H is taking you asking to go to the CPA and asking him to put on ring as nagging...some guys seem to want to do things in their own time on their own so they don't feel like they are following orders or doing what their wives tell them to do. Make sense? My H is like that. I have grown to the point that I ask him to do something once and if he doesn't do it right away then I don't mention it, until he somehow either brings it up...or often magically does it! If he hasn't done something and then finally mentions it and often asks why I didn't remind him ( to get out of not having done it)...I say something to the effect of I asked you once and figured you'd get around to it when you had time. That puts the ball back in his court and keeps me from looking and or sounding like a nag.
op~ When I decided to NOT get a D, I put my rings back on. My H can't wear his, finger is too big! But I do have his ring. When it comes down to it those rings have a big meaning to us!
