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TCBTE,

sorry...

Protect yourself and get the BEST DIVORCE lawyer you can find.
Protect yourself.

Today is just today, tomorrow might be different.

Steel your heart in this matter. Be open for change later, but right now, protect yourself and your children.

As far as the ring goes, there was a letter written in by a stander about why she chooses to wear her ring.
http://charlyne.org/cc/view.php?id=2503

I found it helpful,

K4D

My C recommended 4 local divorce lawyers. There is only one on the list that I know there is not a conflict, or in a location I don't want to drive to. How do you know you have the best?

Listening to you and doing what you want is a good start.

Since this is not what I want, I have no idea what that means.

Maybe that means how do I put this off or delay tactics with another L.

This isn't the first time he's asked for D. Just the first time he's told me to go get a lawyer. I think I've delayed it all I can delay. In October I made him "talk" to me. I talked. He stared at me with his dead eyes as usual. I told him to tell me what he wanted me to do. He referred to that conversation in the email he sent last night. He said what he wants me to do is to get a lawyer. I've talked to the one on the list that my C gave me. She seemed very knowledgable. She suggested collaborative law rather than mediation. In his email last night H said he didn't think we needed a mediator----just have my lawyer be in charge and he'll sign it if he agrees.

I was turned off by the lawyer I talked to when she asked if I lived in the "marital home." She was all business-----and I guess that's what I need, but I know I won't handle this well. I am not handling this well, and need someone that will hold my hand.

You obviously don't want to do this. Why not make him do the work if this is what he wants. Why are you doing it?

I told my W if she wants a D, she will have to do it herself. I won't take part in it.

Kevin

TCBTE,

Your husband who is a lawyer, is telling you to get a lawyer.

Getting the best DIVORCE lawyer you can doesn't mean you go ahead with the divorce, it just means you have the best champion on your side you can find if you do go to court.

Burying your head in the sand, and you might find you do't have a house or custody of your kids when you pull it out.

Make him work for the D, but do not be stupid and not lawyer up.

Didn't realize he was a L. I should have read more of your thread. I agree with Jack then.

Kevin