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Good thoughts Lola, it is encouraging to think back.


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It's even more encouraging to think forward...


Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..

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Hear hear!


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Am I ever going to be ready to date?

I have tried dating a guy for the past week and a half. Nothing serious. And I just told him I couldnt do it.

I mean, seriously, I still feel like even going out is cheating!!!

WTF?


Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..

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Hmmm, I should be validating your feelings but hey LOLA!!! Come on girl! Time to change the page.
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Thanks a lot...


Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..

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LMAO

What's the hang up?

The piece of paper (I had difficulty with dating while still M, even if only technically, it definitely made me uncomfortable)? Or is it emotional? Or both?


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((((Lola)))))

So there is still an emotional attachment at some level of your sub conscious. Don't feel bad about it, just find a way past it. At least you have been given the opportunity to date, that is fantastic! Just do it at your own pace. As long as you don't shut yourself off totally to the possibility in the future then you're fine. There is no shame in still having an emotional connection. Having that piece of paper is not a magical fix.


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I suppose. I am not shutting down from dating, but I think this guy was kind of pushing for more than I was ready to give. I got red STOP signs in my head.

I figure it this way, I am not shutting off the possibility that I may meet someone I really like. But I want to go really slow. This is the first time I have felt pretty good being on my own.

This one was kind of a set up from a friend, and I hate that. I felt really backed into a corner with it, and actually had to ask a therapist friend for advice. I didn't even really want to go out with the guy.

But then again, according to Venus and Mars Moving On book, I am supposed to date people I wouldn't normally date so I can get used to rejecting and being rejected.

And I ask you, what kind of happy horse sh!t is that? Who the fudge wants to be rejected??? Or reject???


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Hahahahaha.

That is some twisted advice!

Although keeping the door open to people you wouldn't normally date can lead to meeting someone very nice, that whole bit about rejection is just masochistic!


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