What about the issue of abandonment in the church? When exh left me, I asked our priest what to do. He said that since exh had abandoned the marriage I was also free to move on. I think there are certain things that are acceptable to move on to another R eventually.
Not for me to say. I would go with what your priest tells you.
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As far as wondering whether the marriage is legit in the church's eyes...it doesn't even seem like a issue now anyway. It would be more of an issue if you were still married (like a normal husband and wife) if I got that correctly.
I guess this is a matter of interpertation.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I really do try and understand your points. Is there anyway you would even CONSIDER trying to understand mine?
I think I am understanding yours CG. The main goal is to focus on other things that I can control and accomplish in my life and stop focusing on the things that I cannot control in my life. Basically, let go and let God. Do what makes me happy without W or thinking about W because W could care less. Set a path and move forward with it. Figure out what I want to accomplish and jump on the ball and start rolling with it. Get out of this funk.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Anyways, that is one reason I am excited about our business plan. I truly am excited about it. It was great to finally get it officially rolling. It gives me something to work on that I am hoping at some point takes off. The rewards could be great or disasterous. But it is going to be fun and a lot of work trying to put it together and seeing if we can launch it.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I did go and have lunch with D8 today. She was excited to see me. We sat together with her friends and talked and ate. There was a lady there who I think is a teacher who kept coming over to chat with us to. She then asked everyone to sing happy birthday for D8. It was pretty cool. W had dropped off cupcakes earlier that they were going to eat in class after lunch. I also got to meet D8's teacher for the first time. Sad isn't it this far into the school year.
After lunch D8 wanted to help clean their table so she was allowed to pick one other friend to help her. Funny, wish she was that accomodating at home. lol. Anyways, after she cleaned the table she came over and gave me a hug goodbye.
It was a good lunch and no, W was not there which I was happy about. I got to spend it all with D8.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I really do try and understand your points. Is there anyway you would even CONSIDER trying to understand mine?
Reading comprehension is hard, apparently.
In the comment that I responded to, I thought what you were asking was perfectly clear. But I've seen him use that response often.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
In the comment that I responded to, I thought what you were asking was perfectly clear. But I've seen him use that response often.
Everytime you come on this thread, I am just overflowing with sensations of brotherly love from you.
Nice of you to pop in now and then and set things straight.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Ok, so W just called and wanted to firm up plans for tonight. Since I am picking up the girls, she wanted to make sure I didn't forget D8's Nintendo DSI since she will be getting some games tonight. Then W felt the need to remind me to make sure our girls were dressed appropriately and hair done and do not look like crap. She said they will frequently dress themselves like crap. I said I will take care of it and we will see you and your dad at the specified time tonight. She said she wants them to be able to take pictures with her dad. I said ok. So we are going to Joe's Crabshack tonight. D8 wants crab legs from there. I will enjoy D8 and D12 and the food.
It is going to be very awkward to be there with W's real dad. But I will get through it and I might even get through it with flying colors.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
I know I can't take this one seriously. Funny though.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
