This is something I wrote before I went to the beach...
Originally Posted By: Gnosis
What the heck am I supposed to do? Sit around baking cookies and feeding the homeless until the bee flies out of her bonnet? There's a time and place to be the New Age, sensitive, metrosexual guy who understands, sympathizes, placates and supports his woman.
Then there's the time when he has to rise to the occasion, reconnect with his predetermined DNA hard-wiring, whip out his club and whack her over the head. Take her back to the cave and ravish her... then hope she regains her senses.
Then there's the time when he has to rise to the occasion, reconnect with his predetermined DNA hard-wiring, whip out his club and whack her over the head. Take her back to the cave and ravish her... then hope she regains her senses.
LOL schmexy!
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I wrote this on Maynard's thread. Edited and copied here for "safe keeping"
Don't have the same consequences for all your boundaries... and be prepared to ENFORCE them. Your boundaries WILL be tested. Make no mistake about it. Every time you fail to enforce a boundary your W will lose respect for you... Find ENFORCEABLE boundaries. Make sure you have both the balls and legal rights to execute them.
Here's a parting gift for you to consider:
Originally Posted By: Gnosis
While LBS talks, WAS eats cake and walks, Without action LBS sits on hands in dissatisfaction, When LBS makes a stand, WAS will slap the hand, While LBS is firm, WAS will squirm. When LBS walks, WAS demands talks, LBS waits and listens, WAS snorts and glistens, Until LBS lays down the laws, WAS will not retract the claws
�2010 Gnosis
From a potential novel called "Who Gno's best?" (At your favorite bookstore sometime around 20/20)
So... last status report had my wife blasting my brand new "el cheapo" cellphone and flooding the service provider's voice mail queue. After wiping out the messages I received a second salvo... Enough was enough. I had no desire to exchange spew at that moment, so I got myself a new number. Things were semi-peaceful again. Until...
Mrs Gno remembered that she has email... then she remembered how to use it. Mercifully she forgot about adding subject lines in the emails. I dunno what that was all about because I promptly dispatched the offending items to the trash can and set some new rules. Yeah! All her messages are automatically recycled to free up electrons - my contribution to the global warming crisis. Satellite communications are down due to solar activity. (Uh huh, life at the beach is good...)
Before anyone jumps in and tells me I should at least open them and use them for legal purposes or something... don't worry, my legal ducks are in line and quacking up a storm. Completely covered on that front. Don't need more.
Furthermore, I don't want to hear what she has to say. Sorry, not interested. Serious communication between adults should be done FACE-TO-FACE. I was available 24/7 for a long time and she could have taken advantage of it at her leisure then. That privilege has now been revoked. Talk to the (legal) hand now dear, it's the only one that's listening.
Some more wisdom from Sandi. A woman's opinion of today's men:
Originally Posted By: sandi2
I have seen something in a lot of the men who are sons of the women who came out of the women's lib era. I have seen a change in some of the male population that is a great concern to me. Not in all cases, of course, but in many there seems to almost be a role reversal of what was once seen as "traditional".
I feel that it is a result of how society sees the wife & husband being "equal". Men and women should be equal....but they will never be the same.....or at least they shouldn't be the same--or we are in big trouble!
Whenever these roles are confused, that is when things are out of order in the home and the W will not respect her H and she will walk all over him. He has to be a manly man in attitude aNd how he conducts himself.
Thank you Sandi.
I thought I was the only one (and being a man) that recognized this growing, disconcerting phenomenon.
I wish I could set the bar for the next woman in my life at Sandi's level. But I fear if I did. I would lead a life living with just one great person. ME
And you know what.
I just answered a question
I will set the bar at this level.
This is what I am worth to myself. I get a do over....
I wish that us men could figure this s)(t out when we are in our early 30's
Well at least gnu we figured it out before we turned 40...
I am looking forward to the second half of my life.
I hope you are as well
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