Sounds like you are doing very well. I am glad you had a great time sailing. I always wanted to go deep sea fishing. I think when my brothers and cousins go away next year we are going to do it down in FL.
Keep it up and try not to miss your kids too much when they are gone. It makes seeing them and spend time with them that much more special.
My W and kids are all sick again. My S and wife are on antibiotics and all three of them are on the nebulizer to clear their lungs. They were all sick last week so I guess it came back.
My W called me at work yesterday on their way to the grocery store to ask if I needed anything. I told her if she wanted I would do the food shopping later on since they were all sick. She said she wanted to drop off the prescriptions so they would do the shopping while they were there. Plus the kids needed to get out of the house. I told her I would pick up the prescriptions after work so they won't have to wait for them.
After work I picked up the medicine and went home. I played with my kids and then cooked dinner. After dinner my W gave the kids baths and I cleaned up downstairs.
We put the kids to bed with the usual routing - reading and singing to them. My W went into her room and I went into mine.
It's still calm and civil at the house. She actually pointed out some articles in the newspaper and asked if I had heard of the stories. We talked a little bit about them. We seem to be interacting a little more about non-logistical subjects. She even asked me about the sailing and my trip to my sisters for the 4th.
When they got home from their trip my W gave me a puzzle book that is like Sudoku with a twist. She said she saw it on the shelf and thought it might be something I liked. It kinda surprised me that she did this because it's been quite a while since she has. I thanked her for the book and did a few of them that night. Yesterday when we were outside with the kids I brought the book out and my W did a few of them.
I brought home some sparklers and some boxes of those things you throw on the ground and they pop for my kids. Monday the kids and I went outside and popped them all. They had so much fun throwing handfulls of them at a time. Then when it got darker my S asked if we could go outside and light the sparklers so the 4 of us went out and I lit them up. It's amazing how such small things are so exciting to children. My S was really happy that I brought that stuff home.
That's the update.
As for me. I'm moving along building a life for myself. I am working on some internal issues that I know need improvement so I have a pretty full plate of nice things to do and work on. This Saturday I'm planning to take the kids to a local airshow where they fly WWI vintage aircraft and do dogfights. I used to go there when I was a kid and I think my kids will really enjoy it.
I was originally going to take them to a Day With Thomas but it's a 2 hour drive and the weather is questionable for Sat so I changed the plans around. Last night my W asked if I was going to take them to the Thomas thing and I told her I changed the plans. She said she wanted to get a haircut and wasn't sure if I needed help getting them together for the trip. I told her to make her appointment for whenever she wanted and I'll have the kids.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
Everything has been status quo. We have been getting along fine. Even have had some laughs along the way. I've been GAL'ing and keeping myself in me. Working hard at being present and it's really made a difference for me.
I took the kids to see an air show on Saturday- it's WW I biplanes and a show I used to go as a kid. I packed a picnic lunch and we sat on a blanket, ate, and watched the show.
Sunday the four of us went to a birthday party for one of my son's schoolmates. We had a good time and the kids loved it. My W and I interacted well and we played with the kids. Later on in the night she came into my room and said she had a really nice time and that kicked off a small talk conversation.
My W is going away for the weekend for her 20 year high school reunion down on Long Island. I'm going kayaking Saturday morning (my SIL is watching the kids) and then on Sunday we're going back for the air show. They have a different show on Sunday's where they actually dogfight and drop 'bombs'. When we went last Saturday the conditions were really windy so they ended up giving everyone a rain/windcheck for a free admission - so we're going back this weekend. My kids loved it and I think they're gonna flip out on Sunday because it's a much better show.
So that's the short update.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
I just wanted to post this so it's clear where I'm at. I'm still DB'ing my @ss off. I still have my eye on working the principles I've learned here. Although my sitch 'appears' to be heading toward a D I am still working on trying to turn it. When I say trying to work it I mean working on building myself and my life up - my focus isn't on saving my marriage, it's about taking care of myself and my kids, but I still want to save my M if it's possible.
I think some of my posts have come across as if I've given up and resigned myself to getting a D. On the one hand I've accepted where everything is and am doing very well with it. At the same time I still have my eye on the ball.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
I just wanted to post this so it's clear where I'm at. I'm still DB'ing my @ss off. I still have my eye on working the principles I've learned here. Although my sitch 'appears' to be heading toward a D I am still working on trying to turn it. When I say trying to work it I mean working on building myself and my life up - my focus isn't on saving my marriage, it's about taking care of myself and my kids, but I still want to save my M if it's possible.
I think some of my posts have come across as if I've given up and resigned myself to getting a D. On the one hand I've accepted where everything is and am doing very well with it. At the same time I still have my eye on the ball.
Good to hear that you are doing well. Just keep working on you and the rest will fall in line one way or the other.
There you are. Was thinking about you this weekend.
Now I know you both need to get a room.
You and Steady cross my mind because my only contact with you is on this board. So, it's not just Steady that I thought about it was you too. It's why I poke.
Oh man...did you have to go and clarify that for him? I was feeling so special there for a brief moment in time...lol
Not a lot of changes day to day so I don't post as much as I used to, but I do miss the daily interactions with you guys (and gal).
After work today the 4 of us had a big water balloon fight. My W was sitting on the stoop filling up the balloons and my two kids were pelting me with them. I was soaked. So my son was standing in front of my W and I pretended to throw a ballon at him. So he moved then I threw it hitting my W in the legs. She gave me that, oh no you didn't look (playfully) and when I turned around to get my son she hit me in the back with a balloon.
Then she started to squirt me with the hose. I grabbed the other hose and there was the two of us, laughing, and soaking each other on the front lawn. We all had a really fun time...and we were drenched completely.
If people didn't know better you would think we were a normal family having a great time on the front lawn.
That's the update.
MySitch Me-47 STBXW-41 D-5 S-8 ILYBNILWY-01/08 Want a D- 01/09 Physical Sep-01/10 D filed-06/10 Got 50% custody=09/11 Ride that wave!
