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Mish, I honestly dont' know.

The only thing I can think of is thru-out the entire M I have always considered her to be controlling. I could'nt be out of her sight for more than 5 minutes without having to check in.
I lost the few good friends I had because of that. Geez, and then when cell phones came along It really got bad.

So, this kind of makes sense now that I think about it, but it's just still so irrationale and in my opinion, smothering. I mean, I had to sit here an hour ago and explain to her on the phone ('cause text messaging is not good enough for her anymore, "she NEEDS to hear my voice") what my every move of my every action I plan to take tonight is. And that's just crazy. And they say LBS are clingy and desperate? Well, then again, she is in that role now, but damn, I certainly hope I wasn't that bad.

Then the only thing she does message anymore is all these cutsey "xoxo", "love you so much" type things, that at first cute, but now it's hitting the psycho level. Geez, it's not like we had earth shaking sex or anything, so I have no idea other than my thought above.

hmmm,

brothers jack and puppy? thoughts, have you experienced this?

edit- what's even worse, is how bad is she gonna freak out when (if) I get a second job to get my butt out of financial chaos?

WHOA! That is extreme Dylan.

She has major insecurities and those didn't arise recently. They have been around as long as you've known her but it sounds like she has gone full tilt now.

Um....no idea how to handle that since it's not new behavior. Puppy....you better take a look at this one!

I don't know, maybe I was just so used to it before? Full tilt, yeah, like someone flipped another dang switch on her because this just came out of no-where, one minute we're relaxed and cuddling, and the next I'm defending myself for actually having things to take care of that don't involve her.

I had mentioned the possibility of going downtown last Saturday to this winterfest going on that the kids would have fun with, and it was relatively cheap. She apparently took that as we WERE in fact gong. I ahd already said probably not New Years Eve if I remember right. And where in the world chruch yesterday morning came from I'm not sure, but she was surely freaking we did neither and I helped my cousin out.

EDIT - Oh, and a last thing on the D that came up. She says on her own, it needed to happen in order for us to know how much we meant to each other, and that it got so nasty because of how much we mean to each other....

Yeah, you mentioning church drew me up short. The last I heard from you there was no way you were going there. What changed? Was it her that suggested that?

Yeah she wants to go, and with her is the only way I will go back. In the seperated state, there would have been no way, would have been too weird. It will give us some regularity to our schedules which is pretty much where the last conversation with her ended this morning, needing to schedule things better. Sure there's some last minute things that can be done here and there, but overall, our work and kids school start / stop times are all jumbled up.

Hi dday, I hate to bump but could use some advice. Anyone out there I would appreciate it fully. I posted yesterday my updates. Not good at all.

Dday, Just went back a couple of pages and read about your kitty. I'm so sorry. I know what it feels like to lose a pet, they are like part of the family.

Hey GF,

Thanks, they are family. Posted a reply to your thread.

I don't know what her deal is but today I can not do anything right, but in all actuality, there's nothing I can do about it anyway. She want's me to run her here, run her there, stay for dinner. I can't. Not today, and tomorrow I have a psych appointment scheduled after work, so there goes that, plus my cousins sons' making dinner, so I'm in a catch either way.

But none of that can reason with "ME, ME, ME, what about ME?!?!"

Geesh, and here we go again, "take me to the bank to cash 'your' check" 5 minutes later, "no don't worry about it", another 5 minutes later, "I'm freaking out and don't know what to do I've got $9 and no dinner and a cat that needs buried". This is insane.

Yes, it is, in my opinion. But you know what they say about "Fool me once . . . fool me twice," y'know?

Seems to me that God has given you a "do-over," and this is your opportunity to rebuild a NEW relationship with her, based on mutual trust and respect and healthy boundaries. I think you'll regret it 'til the day you die if you start to acquiesce to this type of controlling behavior from her again.

Just my opinion.

Puppy