So after MC yesterday it became pretty clear (finally) that my H needs some IC first. He's in a very low spot. All three of us agreed to this as well. So we are stopping MC for now. I looked at a townhome last night. In a sense I feel as though I need to continue moving forward and not sit around and wait for him to come around anymore. If he does great, if not well my son and I are already on our way ....problem is we are separated now....and need the child support to be OK in the townhome. Not sure what to do............in a way I feel as though he wants out of the marriage, there will be some consequences...he may have to sell some things or cancel some thingto pay child support. Then on the other hand I feel like will this be one more thing to put him over the edge.....there's the codpendent in me.
Are you sure that you want to separate? I am guessing you are still living w/ him...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I would not push the envelope right now. Just do what you need to do for you and your son. It is amazing to find a new place, and get on your feet. The sense of accomplishment is a huge ego boost.
Don't worry about him for now. Let him do the IC, and you take care of you and your son.
((((Hugs))))
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Hi Kelly, Thanks for reading.........the support is wonderful.
I left with my son because I didn't want the house or those obligations that come with it. I'm checking into a townhome, new start, this week. But would need child support to be ok. I know that this is wrong but I'm still taking care of the finances, we still have our joint account. I feel bad, I showed him what things would look like financially if we were to take what bills were ours. As it is now without child support if we did that he'd be about -$175. With paying child support -$675. Many people say he is the one that wants out let him figure out how he is going to make it work.
He starts IC next week. He is in a bad place.....anxiety, depression.
I find that most of them, at some point, go through that whole anxiety and depression, and most of them don't get help. The fact that your H is attempting IC is a good thing. Just be prepared, it may get worse before it gets better.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I am okay, thanks for asking! A little stressed, but managing to figure out why...
I will tell you I have watched my H go through similar behaviors. It has been more than two years, and his life is falling apart around his ears.
Its hard to watch, and you will have to realize you cannot do anything to help. This one is on him, and he has to take the journey. The best thing you can do for him is to allow him to learn from it.
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
