I am so glad you guys are communicating and opening up to each other...:)
I like that he stayed anyway, talked to you instead of just giving up like it appears he has done on previous occasions. It is nice when a man will 'fight' for the relationship. Even in a small way like that.
I agree it would be wonderful if you could all wake up together on Christmas morning!
Ditto what everyone else has said. He doesn't want you to see him as "week" despite what he told your friend. sounds like some progress is being made. Give each other a break and enjoy the holidays.
hugs, kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
Hi all, it's been 3 days since I posted!!! Not much to post anyway. A lot has happened but the end result is the same. H agreed to the total honesty committement which for me is a big deal. I know it doesnt sound much, but in the context of our discussion it was important.
We spent the weekend with the kids and my little ones are so happy... Did some Christmas shopping, went out with my brother and his family, I visited friends while he was working...
I also had a meltdown last night. I miss my friend. Terribly. And some times my mind wanders. Then later, I started crying because he mentioned Christmas 2006 which was the last Christmas before the separation that I was completely unaware of the A and he was crazy in love with her... Christmas day is her nameday so I was remembering that day how he kept disappearing with his phone while our friends were visting for dinner... He saw me and asked what was wrong. I told him and added "my life then was a lie. I was living in a fake reality". He tried to console (sp?) me but instictively I pulled away.
No, not focusing on the past. He cant lie about most of the things because I know 80% of the details anyway. About the future. Monogamy vs honesty. I asked for honesty. Leaves no room for affairs. Or that's what I read at least...
I am not sure I understand...but that won't be the first time.
Honesty, monogamy, committment etc. etc. Does it really need to be discussed or does it go without saying that those three ingredients need to be present in a relationship.
How about emotional honesty and monogamy? I know, more questions.....bottom line is you are trying....you have your reasons and they are yours and yours alone...
