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Hey guys, thought I would start a new thread since my other one was getting a bit long and the last one did not seem all that appropriate anymore.

At this point, I see two, and only two, options. Either W and I work on the M or we set about taking it apart. W has told me she doesn't want to work on the M, so that leaves one option.

I remain open to working on the M, but realize that has to be a JOINT decision. And one SHE must choose herself.

I will begin interviewing mediators and have that ready to go in January. It's not what I want, but there is no other choice or option available to me.

gima,
my thoughts and prayers are with you. I really appreciate your advice and input, and I am a better man because of it.

Again, and you already know this, you can only take care of yourself, and let the rest just flow. If she chooses to not work through things, that is her loss. You are a good man.

Thanks man. You have some great people giving you some good advice (Coach, Greek, Puppy, and others). As painful as this must be to you right now, you will make it through this and be much stronger than you ever thought you could be.

Keep posting. It really helps.

GIMA,

Just driving by to wish you well, brother. The road ahead is obscure, so only look at the next few feet at a time as you move on.

Thoughts and prayers for you.

you DESERVE happiness!

Thanks man. I may be starting a thread over in one of the D forums - I was reading yours earlier this am. Which of the two do you recommend since I am still legally M'd?

{{{GIMA}}}

Stay strong.

Thanks SG. Still open to reconciliation, but I just won't wait for it any longer.

I feel the same way, GIMA. I think I would be open to reconciliation (after a lot of MC), but I've been conducting my life like I will be D soon. My H has his own apartment, so I would be crazy not to start living my own life. I have days when I miss him, but some days I feel freer than I have in years. I'm excited about the possibilities in my future.

I am in Surviving the Big D, because that's where I am currently, trying to survive..

For myself, thought that was the best place to reside for the moment.

Our sitch's are close, so I'd suggest there, if you think that's where you are currently..