Will establish one night a week to spend some just us time with H when he is home
Time will be used to let him know how much I appreciate him, changes in our marriage, and this second chance we are getting...also, will ask for what I want/need during that time...and will make sure it is time that we both enjoy...doing something fun together!
This way can have R talk without it being nagging or unpleasant....focus on good and ask for what I need/want but do so in a loving manner and make sure that time is pleasant..that way when asking for what I want or need, he will be more inclined to give it to me, too!
Wondering if any of you have some ideas on how to say I love you creatively through the mail/email?
I was thinking of sending him something like one of my sexiest panties or thongs with an X-rated message....
Don't want everything to revolve around sex, though, as he has said in the past that I use sex as weapon....so, any ideas what to do for him? He's a sports nut, hard worker, conservative, Republican, (very much my opposite in many ways!) down to Earth, educated but countryish farm-boy homestead type....loves art, mission style furniture, ME , and my son, cooking, food, an occaisional beer, his job as an instrument technician, his folks, etc....
Caught your AWESOME postings to Cathy and HAD to come over to say hi.
Sorry, no grand ideas on the mail thing but I'm SURE some of the others will pipe in.
I am SOOO impressed with your progress here. Isn't it amazing how sometimes we can CHANGE internally in literally a second!
Now that doesn't mean there isn't HARD WORK ahead (as you know only too well) but when that bolt strikes and we KNOW we have to change (not just for our M's, kids,..but for US) it is POWERFUL.
I am SOOO glad your biopsy came back negative! I imagine your new outlook, faith, getting off the sauce, and having more love/less stress is only going to improve the odds that your cancer will NOT return!!!
Hmmm...Tal, Sage, LL, BillM, anyone else have any ideas for Alaska regarding keeping her H's love tanks full whilst he's away?
I'm thinking that if he's said you use sex as a weapon, the undies might not be the best bet.
Hmm, that was weird. I posted back to you SBear earlier, but it never went on the bb...ok, to rehash, what I had posted...
Yes, I am bipolar. Take topomax, which is finally working really well for me...after trying lots of different drugs, this seems to be the "right" one. Have to constantly thank the combo of God/AA/AA sponsor/Psychiatrist/Counselor/Db'ing and BB with all you great folks for saving both my life and my Marriage!
As for the sexy undies thing, I agree that is why I am looking for other ideas...silly? funny? cute? You name it and I want to hear about it!
Thanks for all your kind words, SB, I really apppreciate them. The support I get here helps so much!
