I dont think he has any hidden assets. Like what? A house you dont know about? Stocks? Maybe he does have an account somewhere with some extra money he used for other purposes in the past, but I think Dan is actually feeling he is doing the right thing by being generous with the money. K
I think it's probably a little bit of both. Like K said, he probably has a little bit of extra money laying around that you don't know about, but most likely not a huge amount. Most of it is just his guilt coming out and by being overly reasonable it makes him feel better about the whole situation.
I can only hope that my agreement goes so smoothly, however I don't think guilt is a word my WAW is capable of feeling, sadly.
<<Now that I am entering the dating field I should have those anyway I suppose...just in case I deem anyone BBJ-worthy!>>
Hey BBJ, I know you said you have had very little experience with men other than Dan. Please take your time. Do not jump into another serious relationship too quickly. have a little fun (I am not saying sleep around). Enjoy the company of various men for a while. And yes...you do sound great!
I told Rob that I think most of the generosity comes from guilt over his actions. Honestly, I would say if he is hiding something, it isn't money. It is probably more transgressions...he might be trying to pay me for the things he has done that I don't even know about...
It doesn't really matter to me now. Whatever the reason, he wants out and is being generous. So I am making the best of the situation.
Oh, and re. the tile in the basement....apparently last night my son told my mom that he and daddy were getting me tile for Christmas??? So maybe the flooring guy wasn't supposed to call me...
Don't worry people, I won't be sharing the BBJ with a gaggle of fellas...remember, it took Dan two years to get that prize! Now that I am an adult I am sure it won't be THAT long, but I am not rushing into anything...
A new word has entered the American psyche......TRANSGRESSIONS!
Sorry, John! I didn't do it cause of Tiger, honest! I figured "sins" sounded a little harsh. "Affairs" was too specific, since he could feel bad he dropped $3K on escorts overseas, or on internet porn, etc etc. I thought about "misdeeds"....
Maybe I should have said he was trying to compensate for his f@ckups??
That is interesting since you are pretty religious (i think) that you would find the word sin to be harsh when describing adultery....hmmm I kind of like f@ckups myself... :-)
That is interesting since you are pretty religious (i think) that you would find the word sin to be harsh when describing adultery....hmmm I kind of like f@ckups myself... :-)
Yes, I am a Christian, and I do consider adultery to be a major sin...but I know not everyone on here is religious so 'sin' can sometimes be a polarizing word.
I agree, f@ckups is good! Well, if not good, appropriate!
It appears someone is definitely trying to work his way into my good graces...
Last night I told my parents (they came over after Sydney's concert)about the tile thing...my mom says "I know the story on that. Nathan told me tonight that he is so excited because 'he and daddy are getting you tile for Christmas'"...
The past 2 years Dan and I haven't gotten each other anything, but we have given each other 'from the kids' presents. Like the tree he gave me for my birthday.
For his birthday (12/20) and Christmas, the kids got him a dvd player for his house and a couple DVDs. I figure it is a win/win because it also gives them continuity when they go over to his house...
So anyway, I think the tile is going to be accepted as a gift. I got a vm from the carpet co. today, wanting to set up a time to measure. At that point I texted Dan and asked if there was something I should know...(playing dumb)
He replied, "Yeah...Merry Christmas from Junior, Junioretta, and me :)"
Then "Sorry, there was no way to wrap it and they wanted to do it this week. Sorry :("
