Hi stu, My X tried to sell the house out from under me. I guess that if you dont want to sell it, dont.
I think that Christmas is going to be a blessing and a curse, yes it is a good chance for you to show some of the changes that you have made, but it also could be a chance for some things to go not so well, and if it kills you to be around such a classic family situation, then dont do it. If you are going to have a hard time with it, then dont do it!
Maybe theres something to be said for letting her have her separate life, and all that goes with it... including separate Christmases with your S.
I guess I gave the wrong finger to the wrong man...
I really need some advice urgently. My w called me this afternoon and she said she may have an interested buyer in the house we are building. To me it sounds like she has no intention or a remote incling of reconsidering.
It is certainly possible, but houses can be replaced. I know when my parents remarried, neither of them wanted to live in the place they had when my dad left.
Originally Posted By: stu321
I really don't know what to do now. I think I should give up cause I can't see a way to at least try again.
That is up to you, but I don't think you're quite there yet.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I can understand what your saying Trent, but her father had alot of input into the house, and she actually asked me if I would let her buy me out. So she does have alot of attachment to the house. I would be so upset if we sold the house and then got back together, but I can't see that happening.
Should I go for Christmas or not. I guess thats the million dollar question at the moment.
and bluerain, your right, maybe it is best for her to see what it would be like as a seperated family, but at the same time, she will see the new me. I just don't know. I wish I had a crystal ball (as I'm sure every-one wishes).
since my h and i have no mutal friends i do know where his brothers work, and i thought of getting a nice looking man to take me out to dinner at their resteraunt, knowing darn well they would call h and say she's here or i say here with some guy, kind of transparent but my point would be made,. maybe
Me 39 H 30 d 18 previous marriage d 2.5 with H s 4.5months with H Seperation Nov09 july i'm dim to dark - set internal deadline
bluerain, I can't even do that as he will be spending the first half of Christmas with her and her family. I'll be picking him up at about 4pm for dinner with my family (which is at her uncles place). I don't plan on going inside when I go top pick up my son. I'll be calling her when I'm outside so she can bring him out.
Jstar, I have thought of that as well, I'd just need to find the right time and place as her family have no set routine, so it would be hard to co-ordinate.
Yeah, it was, but it is Christmas and it wouldn't be fair on our son.
I'll think about going in. I might not even be invited in.
Actually, I will go in. I'll hit the gym hard and loose some good weight before then. I'll wear a tight top which I was never able to do before. I've already lost 10kgs so I'll aim at loosing another 4 before then. Then I'll be 79kgs at 5 foot 9 inches. Not my ideal weight, but close to it.
Even a mate that I saw last night was dumbfounded with how good I looked and I saw him a week earlier.
