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Good Luck BBJ.... let me know how it goes and if anything was overlooked as I am doing this on Thursday. Dropping off papers today.

The answer is Hell No!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!11

Seriously! Hell no is right! Nice to have a distraction from the stress of seeing the L.

Oh yeah, forgot.......Boundaries in Dating. Same authors as Boundaries which I know you loved.

Let us know when you are home and warm and can fill us in on the L appt.

I am home but in a rush, Sydney's preschool program starts in 40 minutes. Will update later...

Ah sweet! 3 year olds in Christmas shows warms the heart!

The program was awesome! She did a fantastic job. The principal (our pre-k is part of the pre-k through 2nd grade school) said she appears to be a star in the making. Which makes sense since she says she is going to be a singer and dancer when she grows up...

My day was busy/rushed. I had 1/2 day of school. Then appt. for the settlement/dissolution. Then appt. at the endocrinologist again for my reappearance of breast milk. Wtf???

Thankfully the endocrinologist prescribed the same drug they gave me last year to dry the milk up. She also did lab work to rule out any elevated prolacin levels--they did that last year to see if I may have a pituitary tumor or thyroid condition.

Good news is my weight is down from last year. Also she ordered me birth control pills which are supposed to help. Now that I am entering the dating field I should have those anyway I suppose...just in case I deem anyone BBJ-worthy!

The settlement meeting went quite well. Rob (atty) and I met for a little over an hour. I am going to get about 5K more than I thought in a lump-sum from Dan (provided he really does sign on without argument as he claims he will).

Rob was amazed that Dan himself stipulated that I get spousal support for 5 years, 8 years if I am not married by then. He said that is unheard of for 'only' being married 12 years. Then Dan also stipulated that I get 25% of his annual bonuses for the next 5-8 years on the same conditions. Again Rob was dumbfounded. He said in his experience, that never happens. So he suspects Dan may have more $$ or assets out there that I don't know about. But we both agreed that hiring and paying a forensic accountant may cost more than it is worth and take a lot longer.

So....I should be divorced by the end of the month...and I think I am ok with that?!?

(((((BobbiJo)))))

I sure understand what you are saying! In a way my D was real quick, but I realized pretty early on that I was ready.

I think there is a reasonable chance Dan is hiding something, or he is just feeling really guilty! I think your analysis is good though, if what you are proposing is fair, and then some, it probably isn't worth finding out what it is.

I really like the way you are sounding! keep it up!

BJ - is there any way you can word the agreement to include some type of a provision should hidden assets be discovered in the future?

I think that if hidden assets are found in the future, it pretty much nulls and voids the agreement but you should check with your L about putting in such a provision.

It is great that you are getting this done without 2 lawyers haggling back and forth.


I do hope the BJ-worthy-ness bar is raised high. Utilize all sensors and early warning systems besides just that of the stomach regurgitation sensor.