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Well, I think I just threw up in my mouth a little bit!

Kerry- thought you liked the no teeth thingy?

BBJ

The lava lamp is perfect. I just see myself rising and rising and him just settling on the bottom. One little blob all alone, feeling guilty and lonesome. But I don't care anymore.

I saw him on Saturday on a soccer game and no urge to kiss him or anything was there. It's gone. I will never kiss that man again... he used me for kisses and such for the past two years. He said "it's just sex, I dont' no why it's such a big deal to you" when I questioned him about it on the day he moved out. I guess he needed a parting sexcapade. But he used me and I will never forgive that. He was my H. He should have shared with me "it's just sex" attitude.

Blech,

Anyway glad your on your way up!

Yep, I hear the theme song from The Jeffersons...

"Movin on up...."

I think part of it w/Dan is habit, because for so many years it was natural to reach out for his arm when walking, etc etc.

Also, I am human and it has been OVER A YEAR!!! Then again, that just means some lucky guy will be getting a lot of fun when the time is right....

Although it is funny, at the same time when we were playing on the snowdrifts with the kids, I looked at him at one point and thought, if we had never met, would I now be interested in him? And I really didn't think so... hmm...

I wouldn't really want to sleep with him at this point b/c it would be more to scratch an itch so to speak. I know it wouldn't go anywhere...

Just got an email from CA saying he had a great time yesterday...

LOL, told you those spells/charm run in the family...!

All sounds really good BBJ.

I agree with Jeff. Don't even make the appointment. You can't pay it right now and you definitely don't want Dan paying it. Just put it on your list of projects to eventually get to. No rush, right?

So....

Other than "He's Just Not That Into You", can anyone recommend a good book for those getting back into the world of dating after a 17 year hiatus???

I mean I 'dated' (made out with/hung out with) a handful of guys in college when Dan and I were on the outs. But as far as actually dating someone, I have only dated two people, one when I was 15 and one when I was 16 that turned into my husband...

Not to mention I am sure that a lot of things have changed in that amount of time. Heck we didn't have email, texting, etc then!

I think KerryK mentioned "Mars and Venus Starting Over" and maybe "Mars and venus on a date"....

So far I am navigating ok. If the thought of kissing the guy makes you puke, don't date him! If he sends you vulgar texts before you even meet, don't date him! But so far I have learned more 'dont's' than 'dos'...

Make up, Dont Break up: Finding and Keeping Love for Couples and Singles

Thanks, Kerry! I will run by the bookstore this afternoon.
I am only working a 1/2 day because.....

I have an appt. in exactly 2 hours with my attorney to write up the 'official' settlement draft. If Dan signs off, the only thing left is to take a class in January on coparenting and then the judge signs off...

I am weirdly excited, just to find out for sure how much $ I can expect on having each month, what I can plan for, etc. I just hope they don't find a wrinkle somewhere that needs ironing out first... Without hiring a forensic accountant I just have to 'trust' that Dan is being fully legit on how much his cows, etc are worth. However we do have the amounts claimed on our last several years of tax returns to go by as well.

I don't really care how much lump sum I get, I am more concerned with the monthly amount so I can start a real budget.

Is it wrong that I have spent more time thinking about CAs eyes today than I have about meeting my attorney?

OK, heading out for the attorney meeting in ten minutes. I think I have covered everything!