He called me at 1 to see if I was there, I was 10 min. behind. The taco place he had mentioned was no longer there, so he suggested another place, a woodfire-grill type place.
Anyway once I got there he was standing up by the building and he looked...like his picture! Very blue, blue eyes...
So we went in and spent almost 2 hours in the restaurant, talking and eating. Then we walked around the shopping center (outdoors, and it was about 28-30* out!) for about 45 minutes. He took me in the Apple store and showed me one of the gadgets he uses to transfer his drawings onto the computer.
Don't know if that is good or bad (I think good, but you guys know I am a talker!) but in the 3 hours we talked almost continuously! Turns out we have a lot of common interests and mindsets. Yet he is also different than me,and I was quite interested in hearing about his job at an adviertising firm, his passion for animation, etc etc.
At the end of the afternoon we walked back to our cars and he said he had a really great time and wanted to get together again I agreed. Then he said he would def. be talking to me soon...
There was no urge to get sick, in fact more the opposite. I could see myself kissing him at some point.... He is very smart and interesting and nice looking, too.
Thanks guys! This is such new territory for me, if we do get together again it will be my first 'second date' in...15 years! I had a great time, though!
I am sure there is a term for it, but I can't think of one, except tipping point...
You know how, in a lava lamp, the little blobs go up and down? Well, figuratively speaking, I am on the rise, and as I go up it appears Dan is going down...I think last week somewhere I passed him on my way up and he was sliding down more...ok that prob made no sense...
It just appears that as I am feeling stronger, more confident, sure of myself day by day, he is doing...not so well. I am not dumb, I mean I wouldn't be surprised if ow or another ow were somewhere in the picture, but still. He is clearly not happy with the road he is taking. Which is too bad, for him!
Dont worry about Dan's road. Right now you are doing fine without being in the same car with him.
Hey, my XW is getting married in a couple days. He is a half year older than John's mother. What a road! No disrespect to you mother John, but when I was single at 38, a 69 year old woman was not high on my list of future brides.
I am not 'worried' about his road, per se. I feel more like an outside observer at this point. I just hope he gets to a good place for the sake of our kids, mostly.
However, wtf...
I said something after we went sledding Saturday about how it would be nice to have a 'mud room'. Don't know if that is a regional thing or not. But a little entryway room where you can dump your wet coats, boots, etc before you come into the house. I don't have anything like that in this house.
Anyway Dan took the kids to play on the farm yesterday and came in with all the wet gear. I didn't see it, I wasn't home, but it was all in the dryer this morning. So he said to me last night that I could make a little area where you enter the basement from the garage. There is a dog-leg turn to the basement so right when you come in it is just a square area before opening up to the rest of the basement.
So basically he said something about how I could tear out the carpet and tile that area. I said yeah that would be nice at some point, to set it up like that.
Well I just had a vm on my cell phone. A mutual acquaintance of ours whose family runs a flooring business. Apparently Dan called and told him I needed an appointment so I could get some tile laid in my basement, and Dan gave him my cell # to set it up. Wtf??
I understood the lava lamp thing perfectly! Thought you were too young for those!
Dan.... I think he somehow has in his head one of two things. Either he thinks you can't take care of yourself (you think he'd know better by now!) or he is trying to soften you up by doing things that look like "good" Dan. I personally don't trust him.
I would say it is more of a guilt/obligation thing. He feels like he needs to help me out since he basically walked away from his role as husband...
However the vm didn't say who was paying for it, and right now I can't afford it! I just landscaped the yard over the summer (4k) and then the window treatments last month (2k). I guess my stress outlet is renovation! But I have pretty near emptied my savings--I HATE charging things. So now more big purchases for now.
Should I email dan and ask what his intentions were? He leaves today for 4 more days in sunny canada.
hey Kerry, my mom is hot!! I hear you bro...get yourself a new thread, i want to read about how you feel about the upcoming wedding...I have a hunch i will have to go through that as well!
from Kalni's thread:
<<there is an impulse to just knock him over in a snowdrift and kiss him. Or reach for him when we are standing close together.>>
This is very interesting. I can relate to it...granted it has been a while....but when those feelings went away, it was at that point that I knew I had dropped the rope and I could move on. Can't remember the exact date it happened as it pertains to me dating again but when that feeling is gone, you are on your way to healing.
Very blue, blue eyes...
He is very smart and interesting and nice looking, too.