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Are Coach and GReek one and the same?

Is there a way to look up someones profile so you can find there posts and threads? I can't seem to find that.

I answered the question above.

Click on their name next to one of their posts, and you should get a dropdown menu that allows you to view their posts and see their profile.

I mean besides clicking on their user name when you see it. Like a general member's list or something like that?

That would be incredibly unhealthy! Haha! No - we are not one and the same - we are married. We almost weren't but Coach did some amazing 180s, and so did I. We won each other back.

Cheers ~
Greek

You can search for a particular username in the Search dialog.

But no, I don't believe there is a general user listing.

Greek, I figured that out later that the two of you were married. Great to have a H and W on here. Thank you for your response.

Thanks Trent

Greek,

Thanks for posting. I know Coach has issues with my mindset, but I am in a position with my w that she has already moved out, and is already moving towards divorce through mediation. So threatening her with don't be with OM or else, is pretty full of hot air at this point.

My biggest disappointment during my time is that I was in a fog -- most likely depression and couldn't handle things well -- and the fact that our MC who we did joint and individual sessions kept assuring me the OM was just a friend/EA and that would die its own course if I was the best me. Unfortunately the OM drove me nuts. That is when I was vindictive and tracking.

Now I'm just trying to put up and keep boundaries with her and work on myself more and more. Also our MC wasn't too solutions based.

Thanks again.

Last night went running and did a core work out. I hate running but set up a goal to run three times a week. Made it a small achievable goal - just run three times this week (2 down, 1 to go and achieved) instead of run x miles. Running isn't my favorite thing to do, but it is good for me. Feeling the core work out. This is for me, I want to get in better shape - I lost weight etc through this trying time and need to make myself physically feel better and better.

Work on me.

I'm working through really determining what the cycles were between me and my wife. How they played out, etc. Anyone have thoughts on this.

Of late I was angry and I'm sure looked mopey around her, so I've changed my behavior there. But I'm looking to the cycles from the relationship.

One was physical touch. My background didn't have much of that and though I did at the beginning I know I went away from that. But as Coach says that will come later.

coach I've heard you on gaining back the respect. Given where we are right now that is harder to do.

Just rambling thoughts out loud here.