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This was interesting. It has been two days since I've gone dark. But today I saw some reaction. Not much but a little.

I worked midnigts last night and came home this morning and went to bed. Normally when I wake up my wife is at work and the kids at school. Today I woke up to the noise of laughter from my 11 year old autistic son watching TV. I wondered why he was home since he didn't appear to be sick. Normally under this situation I would call my wife at work to ask her why he was home but since I've gone dark I have not talked to her, so I didn't call. He appeared to be ok so I figured that he must have been sick through the night but was better now.

At about 4:00 pm my wife called home and sounded a little irritated. She said that she had called but couldn't get in touch with me. She wanted to know if son was ok and if daughter had made it home from school. I told her that they both were fine. I then asked why she kept son home and she said that he had eaten a lot of junk food last night and was up in the bathroom all night. I told her that I was just wondering and then I kinda rushed off the phone. No small talk no other questions, nothing.

She really sounded irked. Normally I would call her to ask about our son and to let her know how he was. But I didn't call her at all. She wasn't used to that. I checked my cell phone to see if she had called like she said. She had only called once and that was about a half hour before she called the house phone. So she wasn't too worried.

I know that this doesn't really mean anything but I sure got a little kick out of it. Now she gets a small taste of how I often feel.

Perfect! Nicely done, now just keep it up.

Thanks for your advice yesterday. You helped me to put things in better perspective.

Sounds like you have taken steps down the right track. Keep it up! Good luck!

I'm trying. I haven't called her or initiated any conversation for two days. I have a couple days off work starting tomorrow so I have to keep busy with kids, friends and other activities. Shouldn't be too hard since I'm tired of dealing with her foolishness anyway. I don't really expect too much to happen though as she has been dark with me for a long time now.

She gets paid this week so I'm going to hit her up for some money to help pay bills. I'll tell her that the insurance on the car she drives is due. If she doesn't pay it'll lapse.

Great, thats a really good plan. And I think that hitting her up for some $ to pay her own bills is going to be a little dose of reality for her...

That said... Dont be totally unprepared for a tantrum!

Actually what I expect is that she will say that she doesn't have the money and not give me anything. Or she will say that she can only afford to give a fraction of the total cost.

This little game can get fun, My wife was blindsided. Just about everything I did from the playbook worked perfectly. Keep it up!

Burt

A: "OK; I understand. I just wanted to let you know, as your coverage is likely to lapse. Gotta run!"

Wolverine, I applaud your dedication and your self control. I, too, have chosen to stay in my marriage and fight for my family. Keep up the good work. Fight the good fight in the right way and for the right reasons.