Jak, Matilda, Aud, Doc, and DB Friends, One night during the week, I drove her mother to Urgent Care at 9:30PM because my W was concerned that her 72 year old mother had pneumonia, and wasn't addressing it.
Last night I went with my W to her latin venue. Some people are welcoming me back, and asking where I've been. It feels good to be back. I needed the time away to develop my own dance identity. I need to do more than salsa dancing. I now go to my ballroom venue during the week, and accompany my W to a latin venue on the weekend. We drove separately so each of us could have the freedom to leave at any time.
My W seems to like the new dance studio that I've found. We went to a Latin Technique class last night. My W has signed up for private lessons. I record the lessons for her.
She and I practiced together last weekend aat home. I spend a fair amount of time reviewing class recordings, piecing together the steps, and then asking my W to help pull it together. There is one difficult salsa move, that she was patient with me with. I tried to perform it on the dance floor, but couldn't keep the tempo. She didn't get upset with me. I'll keep at it. It can take weeks to get a move to tempo.
I'm also thinking of signing-up for private lessons to identify and remove fatal flaws. My W wants to influence how I use my private time. She wants to learn the Hustle (which isn't on my priority list. I would prefer to use private time to work on technique. I'll have to decide to what extent I compromise with her.
The Puerto Rico trip plans continue to move forward. Her dance friend is in Puerto Rico, and asked her to come down and visit him. He seems to minimize the verbal abuse incident from two weeks ago.
My W and I both had our bi-annual physicals. My lab work is normal. She's waiting for hers. Her doctor told her that she still has time to quit smoking. She keeps talking about it.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
Hi CL. I hope your wife's dance friend won't be still be in Puerto Rico when you and your wife go there. That would mess up my hopes/plans for the two of you! LOL
Matilda, Her friend is in the doghouse with her at this time. She sees his flaws clearly. She uses the word unstable to describe him, and doesn't see him changing. I see the extent of their contact being a courtesy dance. She wrote an email back to him, and told him no to his request.
This is my time to work on connection. We were out dancing or at a lesson together three nights this past week. She's been asking me to sleep with her lately.
Something is different about her. It's as of she's had some sort of awakening. She's working on patience, respectful communciation, and trying to contain spending to a reasonable level. She's been walking during her lunch hour to lose weight.
CL
CL 53 W 54 M 20 yrs. 03'-09' Separation + Old Patterns + GAL 10-14' Piecing
"The Master allows things to happen. She shapes events as they come."
WOW! Sounds like she is making progress on herself just like you! By changing the way you have reacted to your wife it sounds like she is changing on her own. Do you still find time to write?
