My stepdaughter has a basketball game this saturday. After the game I will go pack all my stuff and just show up. I am started to get little anxious about this. But I have to be strong and do this for me.
Bomb 7/15/09 M46, W41 T 15YRS M 8YRS D20 D18 (stepdaughter) sep 8/16/09 papers filed 5/5/10 Divorce papers signed 8/18/10 Nov 18 officially divorced
She is the one that is not happy and wants to be alone. She is welcome to stay at house if she so chooses. If not, let her feel the pain that a felt when I had to pack all my stuff and leave. I built that house (she contributed as well) but its all my sweat equity in that house and I just cant give that up. More important I do want us to reconcile. She is my best friend.
Bomb 7/15/09 M46, W41 T 15YRS M 8YRS D20 D18 (stepdaughter) sep 8/16/09 papers filed 5/5/10 Divorce papers signed 8/18/10 Nov 18 officially divorced
It helps when you are getting spewed on to just remember in the back of your head.......
"they all told me this would happen, I know all your moves, I can handle it." then just smile on the inside.
On the outside you want to look concerned, so pretend you have some bad hemorhoids.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Alot of my problem is that I hate conflict. I am not looking forward too see her reaction. In my first marriage , ex wife was very controling. While my D19 was growing up, my first wife would walk all over me, and I would let her and it would frustrate my present W that I would let her. Who knows maybe my present W will see this as a positive step for me for sticking up for myself.
Bomb 7/15/09 M46, W41 T 15YRS M 8YRS D20 D18 (stepdaughter) sep 8/16/09 papers filed 5/5/10 Divorce papers signed 8/18/10 Nov 18 officially divorced
Alot of my problem is that I hate conflict. I am not looking forward too see her reaction. In my first marriage , ex wife was very controling. While my D19 was growing up, my first wife would walk all over me, and I would let her and it would frustrate my present W that I would let her. Who knows maybe my present W will see this as a positive step for me for sticking up for myself.
Anybody else want to answer this? Anyone? Anyone?
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Alot of my problem is that I hate conflict. I am not looking forward too see her reaction. In my first marriage , ex wife was very controling. While my D19 was growing up, my first wife would walk all over me, and I would let her and it would frustrate my present W that I would let her. Who knows maybe my present W will see this as a positive step for me for sticking up for myself.
Anybody else want to answer this? Anyone? Anyone?
OK, I'll take a stab. AC, your W does not respect you. Sounds like your 1st W had the same issue.
A woman will not (cannot) love a man she does not respect.
Take the reigns here (call it a 180) and LEAD. Take control.
Alot of my problem is that I hate conflict. I am not looking forward too see her reaction. In my first marriage , ex wife was very controling. While my D19 was growing up, my first wife would walk all over me, and I would let her and it would frustrate my present W that I would let her. Who knows maybe my present W will see this as a positive step for me for sticking up for myself.
Anybody else want to answer this? Anyone? Anyone?
OK, I'll take a stab. AC, your W does not respect you. Sounds like your 1st W had the same issue.
A woman will not (cannot) love a man she does not respect.
Take the reigns here (call it a 180) and LEAD. Take control.
Overcome your fear. Have fath. And just do it.
You will be surprised at what happens (we won't).
I think my work with this one is done. I dub thee Sir GIMA.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
Alot of my problem is that I hate conflict. I am not looking forward too see her reaction. In my first marriage , ex wife was very controling. While my D19 was growing up, my first wife would walk all over me, and I would let her and it would frustrate my present W that I would let her. Who knows maybe my present W will see this as a positive step for me for sticking up for myself.
Without a doubt.
Although don't plan on her showing it NOW, deep down, she WILL respect you for taking a stand. Mine did.
Alot of my problem is that I hate conflict. I am not looking forward too see her reaction. In my first marriage , ex wife was very controling. While my D19 was growing up, my first wife would walk all over me, and I would let her and it would frustrate my present W that I would let her. Who knows maybe my present W will see this as a positive step for me for sticking up for myself.
Anybody else want to answer this? Anyone? Anyone?
OK, I'll take a stab. AC, your W does not respect you. Sounds like your 1st W had the same issue.
A woman will not (cannot) love a man she does not respect.
Take the reigns here (call it a 180) and LEAD. Take control.
Overcome your fear. Have fath. And just do it.
You will be surprised at what happens (we won't).
I think my work with this one is done. I dub thee Sir GIMA.
Cheers
Thank you, sir. I had fantastic instruction. And, I am STILL learning.
