Divorcebusting.com Forums Open Forums We're separated--What Now? #67 Cant find my "pieces"

(((((Kalni)))))

I am sure we can help you find your pieces!

I doubt it Jeff. Today is a "I am done" day. Cycling like crazy. Spinning you call it?

But, practice makes perfect, I will soon start ot enjoy this
K

PS I thought of telling H that I want a couple of months to think about things, live as separated and ...date. And THEN I will decide if I want to do this. What do you think?

(john suggested I give him a slap and kick his nuts to go with that)

i don't remember saying to slap him.....

you said 2 things, one was the kick, the 2nd one?

I vote live separated and date. If I ever get to that crossroads again where reconciliation presents itself, that is the route I intend to take. Dating without living together (I hope) allows for some of that romance/flirting stuff, a build-up. I know in my sitch going straight to living together would mean back to status quo, which is unacceptable.

I wonder if the piece you are missing is desire/romance/flirtation? Oh, wait, that's me...

Oh, and don't forget, the word "patience" is banned!


I don't want a 'BOB', unless that is his name!!

(One of the match guys asked me if I had a BOB and dumb me didn't know what he was talking about!! Geez, I am slow!)

Date others, not him Bbj.

Living apart and dating sounds good actually.

What do you think he would say? What do you think his concerns would be?

How could you present it so he'd be excited about it?

Having a date night once a week w/o kids and then having him spend time with the kids might be something to rekindle the romance.

I understand you feeling done. I found if I waited I usually pulled out of that in a day or two. I found new energy and motivation if I focused on taking care of myself.

And no, I don't want a snake with that. I'm at work! What would my boss think!?!?!

OMG! I just had to look up the BOB acronym and I am now enlightened.

Maria - please talk to your Monk. I suspect he would say to not date others if one of your possible goals is to reconcile with H.

K - Wait....putting on the brakes......SSSSCCCCRRREEEECCCCHHHH!!

You meant dating others, not your H? How exactly is that going help the situation?

I am not K,but if I may--

I think her comment was taken out of context. I had said something about being willing to date Dan if the situation was right, but not letting him move back in right away.

Her response to me was, "Date others, BBJ. Not your husband."

So I think she meant that to me, not to herself!!

But, maybe not!!!