Sounds like he is running. He made a decsision and rushing to execute it, not to second guess himself. This isnt normal in my book.
What do you want sandycay? Nomatter what you want, right now, he should feel the weight of his decisions and a simple things like the keys is one of the consequences. If he didnt liek that, I wonder how he will take what is coming? I wonder how it will feel to him when he realises he wont be a part of yoru life anymore? You made love twice and he left... God, something is not sticking to this "got to go" mentality.
Stay strong and calm. I know you have experience but I also know that each time the wound gets deeper. xxxx K
Well according to him, I am confused because thats just sex. What to I want? Well, to be out of this hole I have been in for to long. For my children to not hurt. For their father to stop his verbal spew on them.... they are the focus, not me like most WAS...... he spews on them.
Maybe he will be happier, therefore a better father.... that said... they want nothing to do with him at the present time.
S said he feels like a weights been lifted of his shoulders. He doesn't have to walk on egg shells.
D said well atleast it will be calme here like last week (H was out of town)...
H brought his own unhappiness into a house thats happy and blames us for making him unhappy... hell even the kids figured out that's a load of crap.
They were saying Mom your awesome... he is the one that's unhappy not us... so much wisdom they have.
We have agreed that we (us 3) are the deal... and we are happy so we will continue to be that way.... we agree that it is sad that we won't be a traditional family... but we (3) are a family and we will be happy and we will survive.
They fear he will never be happy. That makes all 3 of us sad for him. We have loved him so much thru this, sacrificing ourselves to do it.
We won't do it anymore. It's time to move forward and start our lives... lives that matter to each other, love each other, and filled with love.
I love my kids and they love me, this will keep me content for the rest of my days. I am not sad that I tried again because I would have always wondered. Now, I don't have to wonder anymore.
Now, I wish I could sleep... long nights suck as well as the not eating. I will do better with the eating thing this time around but the lack of sleep is terrible. I got about 2 hours last night but once I wake up I am done.
Thanks to all who have replied... I need to hear them... I will reply on your threads soon but right now I can't think of anything to say.
Thanks for being here friends.
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
I think it is excellent that your kids are wise enough to understand whose problem this really is. And that they can almost pity him, that is mature, too.
I love how you said it, that the three of you are a team and will love and support each other and stick together. You will grow happier with time and he will probably continue to grow more unhappy. That is what I expect on my end, too...
Still, it sucks. I am sorry and I am here for you. We all are.
My H was mad at the kids in the beginning of his affair. As an amateuer C I think it was because back then, not planning on leaving us yet, the kids seemed to be what stood in the way of his happiness. If we didnt have them, he would just leave.
Last year, and last night even, laying on the couch with my kids, both in my arms, I was feeling I am fine, we are fine, we will be fine anyway. And I am glad you feel and know the same for you guys as well... K
Oh Sweetie I am so sorry to hear this. ((((Hugs)))), and double to your kiddos...
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
Thank you so much for reaching out to me. You don't know how much it means... but I guess maybe you all truly do. My kids are feeling humilated that they have to tell friends again and frankly I feel the same. We live in a small community.
I don't know if H will find a place here or further away as he won't fit in here anymore. He has no allies here anymore. He is alone...(unless there is OW) which this reeks of.
Frankly, if that's the case, I hope it's the same one... but only for my evil purposes because I know how it will end up. That's wrong on my part as I know she will drag him thru hell and back just to toy with him.... of course it could be someone new.
But you all know ... he denies and he lies
M:47 M:18 D16, S19 1st S 1/08-5/08 Reconciled/May 7, 2008 Left again Nov 9, 2009 I Filed: Nov 17, 2009 Final: April 14, 2010 EX walked away from kids too
Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..
I am very sorry your H is putting you and your kids through this a second time. However, I am amazed at how mature and grounded your children are about this - which speaks very highly of you!
He will have an epiphany someday of his wrongdoings. The big question...would you ever take him back?
It is good that you tried and did everything that you could. You removed any doubt in your mind. I just hope that getting bombed twice does not cause you any bitterness in finding future loving relationships.
