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believe it or not..I'm sort of flabbergasted..

looks like he blamed you for "life" BBJ...

moving..loniness, becoming a stay at home mom..all that was life..

Dan could have cured that loniness you had...but he chose to look for other avenues to get over part of what he caused..

Dan is "good"...he is very "good"

Well, maybe he can use those 'good' skills to find a girl who is willing to be blamed for his shortcomings. I'm not that girl anymore....

AMEN!!!

Thanks, Mish!

Oh and I came across something funny (to me) on Match last night. Here is how one guy's profile read:

blah blah blah blah blah I have been cheating on my girlfriend for a year and a half.blah blah blah blah blah blah I have a hard time being faithful. blah blah blah blah blah I feel bad about what I am doing to my gf. blah blah blah

Now that is either a guy who doesn't bother re-reading his own profile (and apparently left his password available!), or he is brutally honest!

BBJ,

This don't suprise me coming from Dan. I knew he would not want you to move on.

You need to just hear the words, words, words... cause that's all it is. He always has something that's gonna happen in the future to keep you holding out. He's been in that house for almost a year and he can't keep the kids there?

You need to not spend time with Dan anymore. Not your problem, he's going to keep using that as an excuse to see you. He can take them out and he does have parents house.

You need some house boundaries cause he is going to keep on playing the poor Dan card.

Thanks for the match entertainment.... I haven't joined but it is funny to look at the profiles. I just would like some single girlfriends.... where do you find those? Everyone I know is married... sighs

Actually, that may actually work. I mean, there are people that seem to be drawn to stealing someones guy/gal away as many here can attest to.

Hey BBJ, I LOVE what you posted over in Newcomers. good job!

Thanks, Trixi. Despite being on the boards for almost 2 years, finding H with ow just over 2 yrs ago, and all that came before...

I just stood there like a deer in the headlights forever! Partly pride, partly fear, partly denial, concern for my kids, etc etc. But I just couldn't cut the cord. I think everyone gets there in their own time. You can't make someone do it before they are ready, you know?

I just know that I feel good about myself. I know I did absolutely all I could do. Maybe I did some of it too late, that's true. But I know I am not a Walk-Away, even if we never do get back together.

Because you can't really walk away from someone who has already left you, can you?

I am happy, and I am walking toward more happiness. Kind of like there are two roads ahead. One I have been on several times. It is full of potholes, lane closures, detours, etc etc. You could spend eons in there trying to get to the destination (peace/contentment). Then there is another road. I haven't been on it. It might have the same obstacles, it might not. But this time I have that nifty navigation system (batchitt radar) that will tell me when I need to change lanes...

OK bad analogy but I think you get my point! No more sitting in neutral, this chicky put her car in drive!

WOO HOO!!!!! BBJ is roaring! Love it.

Vroom vroom............