It is weird....I've read alot here about them leaving at the 23 yr mark...Is that part of the script?
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Hey Mom....posted another update on my thread....MAH
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
I don't know what it is about the 23 year mark (we are at 15), but something else that seems to be pretty common in many couples dealing with this MLC is that they married young. Not all, but quite a few.
That is true also....I just turned 20 when I got married....
Treese
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
H 49 M 45 D 23, D17, S12 M 25 T 31 01/07 OW H at my door w/proof Bomb ILYBINILWY 06/07 Sep 01/08 headed for the greener grass, Mar08.B#2H has child who is 9 11/08 pos.paternity
Jeff has it pretty close. It is just about the time kids are "independent" but Mom has spent her whole life doing for others.
45 or 50 is right around the corner
She starts staring at little wrinkles on her hands and putting on her reading glasses to stare at tiny crow's feet in the mirror. She starts waking up and going to sleep at night asking "What about me?" and "When is it my turn?"
When they go to an IC to discuss this, they are told "Now is your time and you should just go with it"
They want to feel that passion they haven't had time for in years. Someone at work has noticed them, talked to them, encouraged them. The LBS doesn't see it coming, it has been behind the scenes, covered up, but growing for months or recent years and can no longer be denied.
BINGO !!! The bomb.
Maybe instead of celebrating a particular year mark, just celebrate the awesomeness of still being.
Wow!! Everything said here is true in my case..we married young..I had just turned 21. My XH saw 40 coming fast and went into MLC! It has been awful.
About the woman's perspective reagarding MLC...I had mine at about 34, again I think because of to young I was when we married and had kids (22 when I had my D16). I went through the "what about me, when is it my turn, I want to feel excitment again, passion again, loved, noticed" I had an EA online with my HS boyfriend. H found out, knew forsure it was never PA because he followed us the only time we saw each other. Anyway, H said he was over it and we moved on, 3 yrs. later he started his MLC. And, just like you said he felt all the same things as above, someone at his work noticed him, told him how awesome he was, told him he deserves to be happy, made him feel like he was the most important man in the world, all while I was at home raising our kids, trying to keep my head above water! OW just swept in at the 11th hour and took all we had built for 21 years! He is still with her, but I can't see how it could last. He already cheated on her with me!! It is a mess, but I am still standing and working on me! I will be a better me no matter what happens next!
M-39 XH-42 M-17+ T-21 D16, S14, D10 MLC-Oct. 2006 sametime started with OW Bomb-7/07-dumps OW moves out-9/07 moves back-12/07 moves out again-7/08 D final-5/09 find out he was with OW since 2/08---9/09
Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
