D, I was thinking the same thing. The X's are busy this week! K, yep, only 8 more years, D9 is now D10 today!!! We will be having chocolate cake tonight to celebrate.
I lost my PMA yesterday. I was mad at X, and got teary twice yesterday. I'm usually not like that, other than venting here, but maybe b/c the D is getting closer or whatever, I just had a rough day yesterday.
I talked to the teacher and she confirmed what I had thought: she recommended D10 (gotta get used to that) be in ESE and pulled out for Writing and Math. D10's best friend is also pulled out for those areas, so that will be good. Apparently X didn't understand her she said. He got from the parent-teacher conference that she didn't need ESE? I'm wondering if that's just what he wants to hear or denial or something. Her teacher said to tell him to call or email her if he had ?s, and I emailed him the info. It's hard enough getting ESE nowadays and then have to worry about the other parent trying to interfere with that!
I did 2 smart things yesterday; I exercised for half hour, and I went to church last night. S16 tried out the teen program and had a great time, which is amazing, b/c he hates most activities and being social and everything.
D10 told me last night that X had asked ?s about the party we went to Sunday (just a church party). She said he didn't ask about her soccer game though. She said she didn't tell him about the soccer game b/c he didn't ask. I think his anger at her doing activities has come across clear to her, so she now keeps info from him. Don't know what to do about that if anything...
Thanks! We had a nice quiet birthday. The kids left half the chocolate cake in the frig though, so guess I might snack on that a little.
Took D9 to activities today, but we spent this morning working on book reports and history projects. It made the dropoff less painful today, because X will have to do the other half this weekend as it's his weekend, so I can get housework and divorce prep done.
D9 told me this am that X doesn't have a printer (just computer) so she can't print anything out there, so we had to do much of her report this am. If he wants to have primary custody of the kids, hint: might need a printer which I use with them almost everyday for their virtual school and projects.
Had a job interview yesterday. I hadn't remembered, but it was the job with the best pay-$34,000 a year! Plus state job with all the benefits and leave. But I don't have a medical background, and it was like a cattle call with dozens of others there for the interview at the same time, and I know they are interviewing Monday also. But still, always an honor just to get an interview.
I usually do ok or good at interviews, but was nervous (and you could tell) yesterday. I realized afterward that if I got the job, it would prob. solve a lot of my custody issues with X, b/c if you eliminated alimony then he prob. would love to just pay custody to me and have me take care of the kids most of the time. But too much competition nowadays!!!
A divorce weekend for me. Am trying to finish up the nolo book on divorce Lodo recommended for me like a year ago-well better late than never right? Really really good book re: legal stuff.
I printed out my job logs for the L at her request. My idea, I'm printing out a bunch of emails I've saved from him and me. 2 general things I think of when I print them: well you know almost all my emails were approved here before I sent, and others are all polite business-like etc. As I'm printing out email after email from him most just wouldn't you say they are rude condescending, accusing me of being bad parent, etc. Seeing them all one time in a bunch makes this very clear to me. I don't think sharing custody will ever work between us; he will continue to be abusive in email if nothing else. I'm also looking to print emails which show my pattern of (good) communication to him as from some of his emails (you never told me?) I think that's going to be one of his main lies.
Reading his emails, he twists the truth. I had sent him a Sat. email saying that D10 was sick and woke up that morning with a fever. He emails me back saying I should not have allowed her to go to art club Fri. with a fever (which she didn't have until the next day). I told him a comment S16's teacher made to me "you have to fail before you get ESE" and he twists that in another email to say I expect them to fail in the classroom. He's a liar and an A$$. Makes me sick seeing it like this....
No word on the job yet. If I got the job I would have an extra $400 a month over what I do now after taxes(not including my alimony which I think X would try to eliminate of course), and my child support would go down, so if it was cut in half, I'd have the same amount as I do now. I still wouldn't have enough to pay for therapies for the kids, vet care, etc. I asked the L if we can increase the standard amount of child support b/c of the kids special needs and extra needs to help pay for medications and therapies.
I told her the shared parenting responsibility (decision-making) won't and hasn't worked in our case. He's a dictator and shared decision-making is just a joke with him as you know.
There are 20 or so factors they use to determine custody of the kids, so she wants me to type up a few paragraphs re: most of them re: X and include some emails which relate to them, or list incidents such as the incident where he pulled her out of the car, and cussed at me at the school. So I guess I'll try to do that as much as I can.
She asked me to get the federal regulation the D10's principal stated was the reason ESE takes 9 to 18 months for the eval process. I called the ESE office, FL Dept. of Education, and the woman there told me the principal was wrong, once I filed the letter they have 60 days. She said she was going to call the head of ESE for Leon County and make sure the principal was aware of that, and seemed to think it would be done in 60 days. Wow--if that is true!!!
I had a really sore throat today, thought coming down with a cold, but I just took my temp & have a 101 fever. I was so cranky & nasty when the L was acting that way to me, I gave it back, she was shocked said I'm acting so different. I think I am stressed out but being sick today wasn't good, or maybe it was.
We will be having chocolate cake tonight to celebrate.