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Well just to let you two both know (Gardener and Serenity), you have tendency to stop by and encourage others and it is only right that you both get blessed back! Rocked is sending blessings your way tonight! :-)

I would 2nd that. Been lurking all night.

Stop you will ruin my bad a$$ reputation LOL (((Hugs)))

I am so proud of you Gardener - The last few days life has thrown some curveballs at you and you have handeled it with dignity and honor and come out a better man then when you went it...You should be doing a jig.

(((GIMA))) & (((Rocked)))

You two are so sweet - Thank you both for your kind words.

Gonna bump this reply to Greek back up. Interested to hear what she has to say about one of my last paragraphs: the one that I highlighted. Am I (still) nuts, or what?
You, know Greek, I am so blown away by this past year, I was going to move to the Northwest as soon as house sold, D done.

Quick Long story - I am all the more blown away by this because I always believed that my Janet and her children were God's gifts to me in mid-life - for the rest of my life.
We both had the same Divorce lawyer (a woman) 18 years ago. As I left the courthouse, Lawyer said, "Now that you are officially divorced, you should get on with your life. And now that you're officially divorced I can do something I've never done in 22 years of practice. I have this client. Every time, I see her I think of you. Every time I talk to you, I think of her. Here's her name and number. Call her."
Outside the courthouse right after having my life dismantled, I thought, "WTF? No way, Jose! Begone, Satan!"'

Well, I called her. 8 weeks later. We talked on the phone for hours and weeks before we even met. One year after we actually met, D Lawyer became Justice of the Peace for a day and married us. Great story, great marriage, great life. Gone. Poof!
End Long, wonderful story.

So, I've decided that I have just too many stresses in my life right now to pull up stakes. I'm going to wait a year.There are quite a few rentable cottages on estates in this area. I'm going to look for one and maybe barter some rent for caretaking. I am, after all a Professional Gardener (Clever DB handle, huh? Family and friends would never find me here!)

And I had to admit to myself the other day - tough to admit - I was weighing the two options wondering which one might lend itself more to an eventual reconciliation: Being gone for good or being around here and bumping into each other occasionally. I was almost embarrassed by the thought of it, but hey, there is a Divorced But Not Done Forum, right? Go figure. So, after STBXW's horrendous "revelation" the other day, am I nuts" Normal? Optimistic? Or kidding myself?

Either way, next place will be small, spartan, monastic and simple. I'm not materialistic, I just need simple things and my treasures.

Gardener, prattling on and on and on again, as usual!
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I won't touch it then with my opinion.

Greek should be able to parlay this perfectly to you.

(((Hugs)))

rocked,Thank you. These past months I have received far more than I've given. Especially the last two days or so.(())

Gima,Thank you. I was wondering where you were tonight!

No, no, no.
You're opinion always welcome.

I'm ALWAYS around!