Interesting articles. I don't have enough information to judge their veracity, but the first book seems genuinely enlightened. The second book is downright demonizing, and I hope there is a better balance out in the real world than what is portrayed. I noticed that many of the examples he cites are from England and Australia.
I think both women and men are attracted to what they can't have. The bad boy sometimes, but I think it is more the forbidden fruit. Certainly, forbidden fruit always tastes the sweetest!
I always think it is an unfair assumption to blame decisions such as infidelity on biology. We are not unthinking animals simply driven by raging hormones. I buy the boredom vs. excitement theory more than biology.
Can you tell me something of your story? The little I picked up resonates wit me. I'd also like your thoughts on the first book about Women's Infidelity.
BUT....what's interesting, it that poor/erratic treatment that stems from hyper-masculine over-confidence tends to trigger attraction in a lot of women. Alpha-male behavior might be more biologically attractive than we want to admit. The "bad-boy" thing is nothing to be sneezed at. The bad-boy and the "nice-guy" are two distortions of intergrated, healthy, strong, masculinity.
And it seems that most of the guys in our generation, including me, are "nice-guys". Stable? Yes. Kind? Yes. but boring, weak and dis-passionate.
I believe this has been proven to be the case around the time a woman is fertile and relates to the strongest fittest genes that perhaps go hand in hand with 'wolf' like traits. However, I believe there is much more to it than the 'bad boy' image the rest of the 25 days of the month.
For me respect is a huge issue. I respect my H and what he does. For a time we lost respect for one another....now that is back and the affection and love back with it.
My H is not a bad boy, but he has a line you don't want to cross....as I guess so do I.
I wouldn't want to be married to a wimp OR a guy I could walk over. I do want to be in a partnership.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
