I guess I would just rather let him be the one to expose it. I really have no other reason than that.
If you're OK with letting your husband be involved with another man's wife while you wait for her husband to figure it out, I guess I can't say much more.
I am so damn sick and tired of reading thread after thread where the LBS lets the WAS walk all over them, flip their life upside down, hurt children, ruin finances, lie and essentially treat their partners like they are second class citizens and nobody does a thing about it.
You can do all that - but I think all that is going to do is give you more info to be upset about, honestly. It still boils down to it being time to set a boundary. Every day this is killing you a little more and he is just walking all over you.
Me - 33 Him - 37 2 Children (D-8, S-5) Married 04/28/01 He Left 12/03/05 Updated Story
If you have Verizon Wireless you can log on to the account online and see EVERY call that is made and received from your H's phone... the time, date, length of call, what number it came from and if it was incoming or outgoing. You can also see the city/town/state that was called. You can do the same with texts and photo/media texts. You don't need to spend 7.00 per month, it's all available w/Verizon online under "usage". It takes about 12-24 hours for the daily call logs to update.
I have another carrier now but my H never bothered to take me off our Verizon family plan or change the log in info. I simply print off his phone records each month. Close to two years of phone patterns are certainly beneficial to have should my H back out of the agreement he has until tomorrow at the close of business to sign
She is doing all that now. I think the program she was talking about was a GPS enabled thing where she can see where he is at any given time. If he says he is going to the gym - and this online GPS tracker which tracks using your GPS enabled cell phone - says he is NOT at the gym... she would know.
We have looked into these at work to use on our techs - the phones have to be the right kind of phone and then you would have to get into his phone (which he hides from you now and never parts with) to turn on the GPS to that it could be recognized.
But again - all leads back to it being more info that you may not want to see, and you still need to make a decision about how much more you are willing to put up with.
Me - 33 Him - 37 2 Children (D-8, S-5) Married 04/28/01 He Left 12/03/05 Updated Story
She is doing all that now. I think the program she was talking about was a GPS enabled thing where she can see where he is at any given time. If he says he is going to the gym - and this online GPS tracker which tracks using your GPS enabled cell phone - says he is NOT at the gym... she would know.
We have looked into these at work to use on our techs - the phones have to be the right kind of phone and then you would have to get into his phone (which he hides from you now and never parts with) to turn on the GPS to that it could be recognized.
I did this, and it worked extremely well. A $40 BoostMobile phone, pay-as-you-go, with all of its sounds disabled and a small piece of black electrical tape over its speaker just in case. Download a program from BoostMobile's website called Mapquest FindMe ($3.99/mo on Sprint/Nextel phones, and $1.50 daily on Boost). Charge up the phone, hide it in the trunk of his car, and -- voila! -- you can just log on to a secure website and track where he goes. You can even print out screenshots (great evidence).
You can also set it up to shoot you e-mail alerts if the phone gets within a predetermined # of yards of a predetermined location (I set mine up with our house, OM's house, their hookup house, her attorney's offices, and her place of employment). It worked reliably about 95% of the time. It was a pain, however, that you constantly have to re-charge the phone. Like DAILY. So every night, I'd have to retrieve it, charge it up, and then early in the morning get it back into the trunk of her car undetected.
It took her and OM over TWO MONTHS to figure out how it was I kept busting them! LOL OM was just soooo smart, he was SURE that it was the BMW Assist feature on my wife's car (nevermind that a 60-second search of the BMW website will tell you that they will NOT reveal the car's whereabouts to anyone who inquires, without a police report!). This little bit of intellectual "firepower" showed up on my voice-activated GPS recorder, which also sucked up batteries, but which was a treasure trove of good intel.
