Puppy and Trent... thank you. good reality check. H is being super nice. I keep telling him I don't know what to trust, what is real etc.
I need to stand my ground, I know.
It is not his business who I connect with for support. I know. I have told him that, he says he respects that. I am trying to be choosy about that. The reasons for that are really good reminders, thanks Trent!
LFA - thanks so much for the encouragement! I really don't feel I've offered much, but have received so much! So, it is so nice to know others have gained something from what I've posted. Thank you! A smoothie is a FANTASTIC idea! I chatted with a friend briefly this morning and we might meet at Starbucks later in the day. One of these really decadent specialty drinks that have so many calories you don't even want to think about it... that's what I need! hehe Rocked needs a little (or big) treat!
Puppy and Trent... thank you. good reality check. H is being super nice. I keep telling him I don't know what to trust, what is real etc.
Rush Limbaugh has said on several occasions that his father taught him the following life lesson (I'm paraphrasing): "You can tell a man's character by how he treats you when you're in absolutely no position to do anything for him."
You need to seriously think about cutting off all those loving EN's you supply to your hubby. Send some my way in my stich. Time for RDW's hubby to see what life is like without the strong RDW at his side.
And you should treat yourself to a nice treat.
Cutter is going to treat himself to a pint of beer tonight. In memory of those who have given their today so we could have our tomorrow. Lest we forget.
Cutter - I don't think I am meeting many ENs right now for H. He is being "nice", "concerned" etc. but he's not getting much from me.
Had a nice long bath with candles, now going to put on my brand new smokin' hot size 2 jeans I just treated myself to the other day, doll myself up a bit and go meet my friend at Starbucks.
H is sulking around the house watching movies and avoiding the world. He won't be able to avoid forever.
Just looking in on you Rocked, stay strong and if you cant face to much eating at least you can indulge in a hot chocolate complete with whipped cream and choccie flake at Starbucks! Stay strong, honestly slipping into a size 10 pair of jeans (4-6 USA) is what does it for me every time lol, just keep reminding yourself if H is stupid enough to not realise what a georgous s*xpot you are its totally his loss and some one out there will really appreciate YOU! Im supporting you all the way hun!
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Just got caught up on your thread and really sorry about the latest bomb. Glad to see you are getting your legs back under you and into those size 2 jeans! You and cutter just inspired me with your weight loss. I lost a lot after the bomb but I have gained about 5 pounds back...arghhh!
thanks everyone... had a good GALing day yesterday. Feeling down today though. H spent time with her at work yesterday, but when I came home later than him from GALIng (shock) he done the dishes and lit some candles. Been attentive again today.
But, still down because when he does start to talk he keeps wantig to talk about why he was drawn to OW and what if we ould both be happier apart blah, blah, blah.
grrr... gonna just try to snooze a bit... oh, opps haven't eaten today yet either, better get on that.
H and I just discussed separation. He is thinking of moving in with his sister for a while (we need to discuss timeline). He is saying he will not be in R with OW and will date me. He says he will spend evenings with us, come over in mornings before school etc.
The upside I can see is that this will mean him having to own this choice and the reasons for the choice to our kids and everyone else. He can no longer pretend to be the good family man. Also, some space from each other could be good.
Downside- harder to DB as I keep hearing. More opportunity to cont. with OW in a secretive way. But, his sister is fully on board with supporting me in my DB approach, so that might help too.
Still mixed feelings. No clear decisions yet, just a discussion. But, H is over talking to his sister right now to see if she is open to the idea.
Rocked needs a little (or big) treat!
