I know I haven't posted in a while, some times I just don't know what I want to say. I had the kids this past week and it was a really good week with them. I just hated to see them go back to their mom Sunday. D7 is taking ballet, jass and tap classes thru the local college. They will be doing the Nut Cracker Ballet in Dec. One of the dances has Mary and her little lambs with 1 black sheep. D7 was chosen to be the black sheep,[it realy fits her personality] she is so excited about this. S7's football season is over so he gets home alot earlier. He ask me for gas money one evening, I told him he was going to have to ask his mom for money this time because I have given him money the last 3 times he has needed gas. I also had to give him money 2 weeks ago when he went with friends to jacksonville Fl. So he did ask his mom for gas money and told her that I told him to ask her. Said she seemed angry about this, said she was paying for everything else so I should have given him money for gas. S7 also had a date Sat night so I had to give him money for this. I saw lawyer Mon. I got the impresion he really did not want to give me to much information because it was just another consultation, I don't think he wants to say a whole lot unless I retain his services. He did say however that it may be best to file for bankrupsy before the divorce. Sun. evening texted WAW letting her know S17 would be bring D7 over to begin her week with the kids. Later that evening got a text from WAW saying we had not talked about the holidays and that she heard I had already made plans for Thanksgiving and that Christmas would be her's then. Which I had already planned on taking the kids to my parents house for Thanksgiving and stay the next day also. We have always visited my family on thanksgiving because WAW's family[except for a sister] lives in MI. Over the last 4 or 5 years on the Fri. after Thanksgiving we have had a big family get together and made sugar cane syrup. All the kids in the family have a great time at this get together. I did text WAW back asking her what she had wanted to do for THanksgiving. She texted me back saying it did not matter now because the kids were counting on it but it should have been discussed first. I texted her back saying she was right it should have been discussed first and to let me know if she wanted plans changed. I did not get another responce. I Really feel that I should have discussed this with her 1st, but I have just been looking foward to get away with the kids and have a good time. D7 and S17 have really been looking forward to Thanksgiving. I got home last night and found a letter in the mailbox from a law firm trying to collect the dept from 1 of the credit cards in my mane. It had our home address on it so I know WAW had brought it over and put it in the mail box. It's funny because she has never brought any other mail adressed to me over. I think she is just trying to force me into file for bankrupcy like she wants me to. Instead of letting this upset me I sent WAW a text asking her if she wanted me to stay back stage with D7 during one of the four performances of the Nutcracker so she could set in the audiance and watch.[WAW had said she would be back stage during Sat night & Sun. performance] Also told WAW that my parents were comoing to Sun performance and told her a about a change in rehersal time. The only reply I got was text saying no. I have started reading Dave Ramsey's Total Money Makeover. There is a lot of good information so far and it advises against filing for backrupcy. I also contacted a financial cosulting group that I found thru his website to see what my option are. This whole sit. really sucks, my WAW wants a divorce and seems to really hate me now. I just can't understand how we could be married 20 years and go thru so much together and now she has so much anger toward me. I'm really going to try to do everything I can to keep from filing bankrupcy. I hope that at some point WAW will realize that ther is still some love in her heart for me and we should give R. another chance. Then maybe we can we can work out our finacial problems together w/o having to file for bankrupcy. I just don't see that happening anytime soon.
Anyone with advise I would apreciate it. Thanks for listening to my problems. wmp549
I took ballet for 8 years and remember my first Nut Cracker Performance! ur little girl must be so excited! Im excited for her!
I dont have any children so really cant offer any thoughts on the gas money issue, maybe someone with kids can give you some insight on that one. I do remember my own parent tossing me back and forth on gas money tho....cant remember them getting actually mad about it.
I agree on the bankruptcy issue, file for that before you file for a divorce if you decide to file at all.
Yes, you should have discussed plans for the holidays with her. Whats done is done and just go from here. Making sugar cane syrup sounds like a blast tho. I wouldnt want to miss that either.
I dont really have much advice for you, ur sitch is so much different from mine. Wanted to offer my support tho. and ummm really work on separating ur paragraphs. It REALLY is hard to read BUT its sooo much better than ur first couple of posts =)
