Don't give her your philosophy, it will sound ridiculous to your wife. It's not appropiate here.
Don't tell her you believe she has been in conact, you either know or you don't.
Don't reference DR, tell her what you have decided.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
So I ended up calling W and getting no answer, then later a text saying she had just woken (after 1pm my time) and was going to shower then call. I didn't respond but instead decided to do other things with my day. While getting acupuncture I received a bunch of calls from her and some texts, including one saying, "what? You're mad at me now? Is that why you're not answering me?" After I got out I ran an errand, then called her and she asked if I could see her tomorrow night. I told her that I'd rather get together tonight, which she balked at. She told me that she was going to call it an early night and had a long day tomorrow and things to do before she went to bed. When I asked what those things were she said it was "baking brownies." I said that I'd come over and help and she said she just thought tomorrow would be better. So then I asked her to be honest with me and stop lying. She did the whole denial thing, I presented why I'd been feeling that she'd been evasive and dishonest with me for some time and after going back and forth and me finally saying, "you're lying to me, and we both know it, I'm giving you one last chance to tell the truth," she asked what I wanted her to say. I told her simply the truth and to be honest. She then said that I could come over tonight, but when I told her I was actually running errands and nearby, so I'd be over within a few minutes, she freaked a bit. Then I asked her why that was a problem and finally, FINALLY, after a bunch more attempted lies she told me that the OM was over with her. We talked for a little while but I told her that I wanted her to offer ONE single promise that she'd keep... that she'd work with me to make this as peaceful as possible and that I wanted a divorce.
This is now multiple times that she's told me things were over with her and the OM and I also found out today from my friend and OM's roommate that he's only seen OM maybe 3 times in the last two weeks, and that they have actually both stopped by his apartment together all dressed up at one point. I am ready to start the process of truly moving on and getting on with my life and at this point I don't honestly know if I believe that my W could ever get healthy enough to be someone that I'd be comfortable with. She is manifesting all of her fears and it's a scary, scary thing, as I know what her greatest fears in life are and I am watching as she moves towards them more and more with the passing of time.
