I want to echo Storm Rider here. I too have read your old posts and have gotten a lot out of them. Thanks for posting the update - I am so glad to hear things are still going so well for you!
I am glad that my posts have helped you. I look back and think to myself what a lost cause it was back then. Noone ever knows how things will turn out.
If you look back on my old posts you see how much I relied on my gut feeling. It has always steered me right. My gut and my heart!!!
Hang in there. Believe me it does get better and easier to cope with all of this. It might not seem like that now.
Yellowrose, where can I find your old posts? I would love to read them for hope. How long was your H gone? You said it has been three years since he has been home, but how long did it go on?
I too led with my gut for along time, and really still do. I feel in my gut that my XH is a very lost soul and is searching for something and I feel in my gut he is searching for what he had and lost, he is going to find his way back to us in his search. I am moving on, we live 700 miles apart, and I am giving it all up to God as best I can, it is just taking time. Thanks, and I am so happy for you!!
Me: 39 XH: 42 M-17 1/2 T-over 20 D16, S14, D10 bomb- 7/07-ends it with OW moves out-9/07 moves back-12/07 moves out for good-7/08 D final-5/09 find out he was with OW from 2/08 to present--9/09
Me-40 XH-44 T-21 M-18 Div-19 mo. D-18,S-15,D-11 Bomb-7/07 EA,PA Mvd out-9/07-to give me space mvd back-12/07 mvd out-7/08 back with OW since 2/08 OW broke it off-1/10 in and out of tunnel and our life since!!
Augtan, if you click on the poster's name in red on the left and go down to "view posts" you can read all their old posts. Or do a search (toolbar on top).
BND -It really does help so much to have oldtimers post, even ones whose marriages weren't restored. To see that even they are happy and able to take life as it comes is an encouragement. We all WILL make it through one way or another.
YR - I too have been going with my gut a lot and have been "right." My H used to joke with me about not believing in "women's intuition" but it so often works for me! I am trying so hard daily to give it over to God and trust His timing and purpose and honestly the days I am able to do that I am way happier and more content. Really, that is what it is all about and I can't fix my H. The realization of that has actually given me a huge sense of release.
If you go to search and put in yellowrose it will bring up my old posts. Alsoi they are in the MLC archives.
It's unfortunate that all M can't be saved and there are alot of MLCers that will wander and search for the rest of their lives for something. It's so hard to tell what will happen.
My H was gone for 2 years. It was awful, he was very mean and hateful. That was something I had NEVER seen in my H. He had the dead eyes, didn't care about anyone or anything but himself and the OW. What a waste. There were many times that I wante to throw in the towel but these wonderful people talked me down from the ledge.
Listen to the other posters that are going through this or have been through it. The really helped me cope on a daily basis.
My H was gone for 2 years. It was awful, he was very mean and hateful. That was something I had NEVER seen in my H. He had the dead eyes, didn't care about anyone or anything but himself and the OW. What a waste. There were many times that I wante to throw in the towel but these wonderful people talked me down from the ledge.
And that is why I believe in MLC. My H in a very short period of time became in many different ways the complete opposite of who he was for the almost 20 years I have known him. No one can act that long!
All I can do at this point is live my life and pray for him.
Thats right, all you can do is pray and live your life the best you can.
I know when all this started we were M almost 23 years and my H changed from a loving wonderful husband and father to a raving maniac! The thing that got be about that is he told me he liked himself that way!!!!
