Shiny, Thanks for sharing the recipe! Will this be a weekly or monthy thing! Sounds Yummy! And I love the idea of being able to freeze it!
As for DRing, I'm great! There is only one thing that would make me happier; my H deciding to make our M work and come home! But other than that; "I could not ask for more!"
And where would I find said wrestling match, oh "queen of the links"???
I'd like to check it out later...gotta go warm up yummie left overs for dinner!
Phew, what an afternoon! CJ made breakfast and then we washed the diningroom wall. He taped and primered the wall (tough because of the nooks and crannies of the bay window), while I cleaned the rest of the house...haven't done the whole works at once in a LONG time.
I'm tired! So is he, poor guy, feeling a bit under the weather.
Well chances are fair to good that I'll be back late-night...
The sex issue still looms large. It's been over a month...
I know that my cold, fever, kidney pain etc didn't help matters (feeling lousy never does!) but the last two evenings/mornings...welllll....
Why NOT??? We're cuddling...This morning when he went to get up I made it clear that I didn't need any more sleep and we talked for a while...
The other morning we caressed, and snuggled closely, but not so much as a flicker of desire on his part, as far as I could tell.
It's getting me a little down...making me wonder about things...Like is he REALLY happy he stayed? Will he ever desire me again? Does he HAVE a sex drive?
I almost asked him that this morning...In fact it's probably due to the libido dampening effect of my anti- D (the one he's on is supposed to BOOST libido! ) that this isn't a bigger issue for me.
I'm probably asking a rhetorical question here but have you discussed the sex issue with CJ?? Did you let him know specifically that you wanted "a little somethin'- somethin' " or did you just wait for him to get the hint? Since you have been sick a lot lately and may have inadvertently turned him down maybe he is just waiting for YOU to make the 1st move?
Just a thought Zoo
"If patience is worth anything, it must endure to the end of time. And a living faith will last in the midst of the blackest storm."
- Mahatma Gandhi
Well, on Friday night I basically came right out and playfully suggested it ...CJ commented that he felt grubby (painting, no hot water for a shower) and that was that.
We HAVE discussed this issue, both pre and post bombs. He knows it's a big one for me. He has said he would "work on it"...but I don't have a clue as to what that means...work on desiring me??? ...how does one do THAT?
Quote: It's getting me a little down...making me wonder about things...Like is he REALLY happy he stayed? Will he ever desire me again? Does he HAVE a sex drive?
shiny,
as you know we are in similar boats in the low libido h arena. Though it has not been a month this time for me it still is not with the frequency that I'd like...I'm beginging to wonder if I really do want more or if I'd simply like for h to want more?? ah but then I did initiate the night before last and was accepted...but then I wanted to tear his clothes off again last night...felt stiffled that I didn't or rather thought I couldn't or shouldn't...man what a world where a woman wants to drop her h's draws and give him what most men would beg for but feels she can't. .
I've noticed though that h is more likely to initiate when I do my best to keep such thoughts furthest from my mind...it's no fun for me that way as it then takes a while for me to be "in to it" and stop wondering "why now?". I did let h know when we got up to bed that I had naughty thoughts while we were down stairs...h simply replied "oh I must have missed that" but that was all...
I know it's not all you want but can you focus on these things instead??
Quote: We're cuddling...This morning
Quote: The other morning we caressed, and snuggled closely
and all the other great things that are going on with home improvements.
I don't think it fair to question your h's desire to be home with you...sure there's a libido miss match but his sexual desire may be masked under consideration for you not feeling well (I know that if I so much as have a cold that seems to be enough for h to take it upon himself to leave me alone), the fact that you are both tired and focussed on home repair etc.
sure the sex thang is an issue that eventually will need resolution but try not to let it drive you to questioning h's happiness to be home...let's not forget the ole love language theory k?
) that this isn't a bigger issue for me.
...CJ commented that he felt grubby (painting, no hot water for a shower) and that was that.