Well, I have been served divorce papers. I feel horrible right now.....I was doing pretty good up until this point. I am so sad right now.
I'm so sorry to hear that.
Originally Posted By: pitinmygut
I didn't think it would come to this so fast. I feel like the wind has been knocked out of me.
Now you really have little to lose by playing hardball. If you haven't gotten one yet, find a lawyer and let her know that all future discussion about the divorce can be handled through your attorneys.
Go dark to her; no conversation except regarding your son. Focus on GAL and your 180s, to keep your spirits up while you go through this.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
No one ever does. But it DOESN'T necessarily mean it's over.
I filed on my wife two years ago, and our marriage is going better now than it has in over 15 years. And even divorced people end up remarrying I think the figure is 20% of the time.
I agree with Trent -- time to nut up and play hardball. There's a reason they put that little "v" between the names of the parties in the action.
I am having such a hard time right now. I have no one around here to talk to. No one really understands the pain that I am feeling right now....all of my siblings have reasonably good marriages so they don't understand.
Me 44/W 32 S1 M8 Bomb 9/25/09 Separate houses (about 1 hour apart)
I am having such a hard time right now. I have no one around here to talk to. No one really understands the pain that I am feeling right now....all of my siblings have reasonably good marriages so they don't understand.
I don't know your religious background, but is there someone at a local church you can talk to?
Most reasonably-sized churches will have a Men's Ministry or perhaps even a Stephen Ministry; and you don't necessarily have to be a member of the church, or even a Christian, to go talk to them. (Of course, keep in mind that any advice they give will come from a Christian perspective.)
One time when I was having a particularly bad time at work, I called a local crisis line and vented to some poor volunteer for about 45 minutes.
There are lots of people around who can lend an ear or a shoulder to cry on, especially around the holidays. Who knows, maybe you'll make a new friend...
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
I am not a very religious person, although I do believe in God.
I am most concerned about my son and what his future will be like. I will not be able to spend much time with him other than on the weekends. It makes me so sad that I will not be a part of his weekly activities (when he gets older)
Me 44/W 32 S1 M8 Bomb 9/25/09 Separate houses (about 1 hour apart)
There's no way you can know that for sure right now, Pit. These things swing WILDLY from one extreme to another -- trust me on that. I've seen a rodeo or two (or two hundred) by now, kwim?
Your son needs you to be strong right now. He doesn't know what you're going thru, but some day he will.
