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Sorry to hear that crossroads. Like others have said though, it may be the best thing to happen to you. I know people have said my WAW is doing me a favor, I will see this later when I meet someone better. Regardless though, I still love my W, but theres nothing I can do but to move on in my life. I took the ring off tonight, it felt weird, like my hand was naked :P I plan on giving the ring to her when the D papers are signed.

I've been wearing my ring about 1/2 the time...usually when I have my son. It's only been a week since W moved out & our only conversations have been about our S.
It makes financial sense for me to put off D as long as possible. Otherwise, I think I would've already filed for D.

I am also struggling with the ring decision. He tooks his off 1.5 weeks after he moved out. I still wore mine up until 3 days ago. It hurt to take it off and it hurts to see my bare hand. I am trying the LRT so it feels like wearing it is a direct contradiction to the technique. At this very moment, I want it back on...but I am so confused over what message it sends.

I wrote this back in January 2008:

Let me tell you a little story about rings.

If you read up on my sitch, you've see that W and I were separated eight years ago. (Wow, I'm used to saying seven and now it's eight....) And somewhere in my threads you'll see the games she's played over the years with her rings.

Anyway, when we got back together we wanted rings that symbolized our "new" marriage. So she upgrade her diamond engagement ring (which was already pretty nice) and I got a diamond studded band. This was around our 10th anniversary so I told people that's what it was. She also had/has a nice 5 diamond ring that I got her for our 5th anniversary and a plain gold band wedding ring.

Between then and now she would wear various combinations of these rings but always at least one of them. It almost became a gauge of how she felt about our relationship. When she felt good about us or was dressed up, she would wear both diamond rings and get many compliments on them. Other times she would just wear the band.

Skip ahead to our latest issues -- the last time that I noticed that she wore both diamond rings was 1/15/07 when we went out to a nice dinner and dropped the bomb. After that she wore just the band on and off, mainly on when we went to church. She hasn't worn any of them since she filed. She even goes so far as to wear a ring her mother got her (so she says) on the middle finger of her left hand, almost to advertise the fact that she's not wearing anything on her ring finger. All three are packed away in her jewelry box.

Me - I typically wore both the plain and diamond bands on my left ring finger to work and when I was dressed up. I never took off my wedding ring except to swim. At some point in the last year I quit wearing the diamonds as it symbolized our "new" relationship that was no longer there.

I continue to wear my wedding band. I'm still married. I will likely take it off the day the divorce is final and put it away. I will keep as a reminder of my marriage. I will likely sell the diamond ring.

I decided that I was done on 3/10/08 and took them off. Divorce final 3/24/08.

Not even sure where my rings are right now, having moved twice since then. But with gold at an all-time high????

I sold mine. I mean, I figure it this way, if, in the very minute chance my stbx and I do start over at some point, it is going to be a new relationship anyway so why not have a new ring?