Look all you can do right now is suck this up, and ride this out.
Now is not the time you are going to see any changes. HOWEVER, the way you are currently acting...I hope it is not an act, this new attitude...this is the one that should bear you better fruit.
What is happening NOW, is because of your past behaviour. What happens in the future is because of what you do now.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
she responded back with a crap email, she keeps reading into everything...I was probably too nice on response back. Don’t need anything from the house, thank you for offering.
It says in your paperwork that you pray we can come to an agreement on furnishings so that you don’t have to purchase things new. Hmmm………………..might want to tell your lawyer that I offered and you refused.
Utilities, insurance, etc. you should probably talk to your attorney. The petition states those things should not be changed under VIII. Restraint page 5 of the temporary order.
It states that I can’t shut off or take away anything you currently have. I can however, put utilities in my name and ask you to pay for your own phone. Obviously, you can refuse as you are doing now. I can keep bills in your name if you prefer. I figured you didn’t trust me to pay them and wouldn’t want your credit ruined. I’ts hard for me to pay for everything with no help. Brady’s dentist bill wasn’t cheap, neither was Chip and Annie’s vet bills. Your place take pets? Annie eats like a horse. She’s your dog. D's hair is expensive, so was her Halloween costume. Wish you would help meet the kids needs. Lunch money, etc. S has an eye appointment coming up too. I can’t afford your cell phone and health insurance if you aren’t going to help with their day to day needs. A gallon of milk doesn’t cut it but thanks for trying. I now have 3 gallons of milk in the fridge. I would rather they have lunch money.
Your weekend with the kids is next week. I’ll pick them up Friday after work and drop them off at school Monday morning. The parenting plan is a 2-2-3 schedule was told yesterday that this week we’re to start at week 2 and next week will be week 1. Don’t think either one of us always wants to be home all of the time and was thinking of the kids wanting to be able to hang out with their friends and stuff on alternating weekends.
Do I need to tell them that they are staying with you this weekend, or do they know?
What do you think would be easier for you and the kids? Picking them up from the house or having them dropped off by the bus the nights I have them. Neighbor next door does daycare and will watch the house until I get home from work. Maddie will need to come outsideJ I know they’ll have problems, but I can handle them. Yes they can both have friends over and stuff, it will be fun.
Ask the kids what they prefer maybe? You live in Maize, can they walk to your place from school? What do you mean “D will have to come outside?”
The phone and other stuff, can I get back to you? Of course I want to help with other things.
Hard to help when you work for free, huh? Maybe you should sell your motorcycle. Want your stuff back that you taped behind the mirror?
AYK-You seem to be getting it better every day....I am seeing a good attitude. Also expecting nothing is a very good path to follow.
Thought on your wife...she seems to be coming at you with tons of negativity, either verbal or written. Do you see an out for you from these confrontational outbursts? Remember there are constructive conversations were you can validate her feelings, but there also conversations (arguments) were nothing constructive can happen. Those are the ones that you need to get away from.....there is no need for you to let her holler at you while you listen quietly...does that make sense?
Trust you immensely!!! Always have and will. Please know that. All I pray for is we can work things out without needing attorneys, giving you time and space you want and need and when you or the kids need something to let me know. And laugh about this one day, like you said this summer.
I did tell the attorney last week, that I didn’t need anything from the house. And didn’t have to purchase anything, friends have helped out. The kids need to decorate, too.
Furnishings Want you three comfortable, happy and feel like a home.
Not refusing to pay for the phone. I understand it is hard to pay for everything. Tell me what they or you need and when I get paid I’m sending the $1000 to the Payment Center and the kids expenses and stuff of course I want to help with all you have to do is let me know.
No pets. Asked S the other day if the dogs needed food he said no. I want to get you and the kids groceries, but I don’t want you mad at me for doing it. I want to give the kids lunch money and allowances waiting for an ok to do those things.
S can walk to the place, D can get dropped off. D has been too tired to come outside the last couple of weeks. She apologized for it the other day. Was just having fun with the comment. S said he can’t get her to wake up.
Dropped the insurance on the motorcycle have not registered it, get it running it’s gone. Decided don’t want to orphan anyone.
The stuff behind the mirror can go in the safety deposit box. It’s the kids savings bonds and an old credit card, we can cut it up. The things that were behind there of ours were the passports and birth certificates that went into the safety deposit box.
D knows we have a place,S does not. Neither one of them knows they are staying with me this weekend. Didn’t find out until yesterday.
The address is . It’s right around the corner Cable has not called me back can the kids bring some DVD’s so we can run to blockbuster and his XBox? S needs to bring his chess board. Would like D to come to the tailgate this wkend and of course friend can come.
