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are you limited in seeing your kid because of work?

Yes robx. I work about 100 miles from home and she moved about an hour away in the opposite direction. So it would be next to impossible for me to do any overnights with him during the week, unless I used a nanny/au-pair/daycare

I would really some opinions on my sitch.

Do the folks here think that I should make the move and remove my WAW from my health insurance and only leave my son it for now?

Also, my sitch with only being able to see my son on the weekends is one of the hardest, if not the hardest, things I have ever had to do in my life (and I have had a cancer diagnosis in the past). Do you think it would be a good move on my part to tell the WAW that I believe she is acting like an unfit mother and making irrational decisions (ie: she has no money and very little coming in, moving into a house (that is free to stay in) with no way to support a household), so I want full custody of our son now and I will either put him in daycare or have a live-in nanny/aupair?

I am having a pretty bad week.

Your sitch is a tough one. Like robx said, I think you need a legal custody agreement. Your job & commute will make things difficult. Try to do what's best for your son.
Did you ever track down that cell# to find out if there's an OM involved?

I know e, this is a tough one for me. I have been tossing around all these ideas in my head of ways for me to get my son for more time. I can't stand the fact that she gets him for 70% of the week and she is one that walked out. Another thing is that she gets the weekends to do what she wants and I basically have to put my social life on hold....don't get me wrong, I LOVE being able to spend this time with my son and I cherish every moment!

I have not been able to determine who the cell # is. I did attempt to do it, but the service wanted money up front to give the full details and I didn't want to do it at the time. It was only a few bucks, so I might do it today. I have a feeling that it is either a lawyer, therapist, bill collector, etc and not an OM.

I am having such a difficult week. I think the news that my WAW has decided to move into the other house has been a bit of reality slap. I was ok up to that point, not great, but not real bad either. (other than her not acknowledging my b'day).

This wouldn't be so bad if my son wasn't part of this.

Another thing that really bothers me, is that we have not had "alone" time together since she moved out a few weeks ago. I can't figure it out. Whenever we meet so that I can pick up or drop off my son, she ALWAYS has someone with her - usually her mother or step father. I don't know if she doesn't want me to have the opportunity to bring up R talk face to face or if she is feeling too week to do it on her own. It definitely isn't out of fear that I will harm or anything like that since that has never been an issue.

If in doubt, you can always call the number. You might want to be careful about that, in case it is an OM.

I hear you, man. It sucks.
My W had an A & is leaving me yet I have to pay child support even though I'll have our S 1/2 the time.
I'm practically paying for her rent.

I'd pay the $$ to find out who the cell# belongs to. If an OM is involved, you deserve to know.

I tried to call, but it just goes to an automated voicemail system, which isn't a typical "personal" vm, more like some sort of a business.

One of the things that is the most disheartening for me with my sitch, is the fact that we went forward with starting a family, even though she claims that she has considered leaving for years.

A bit of history. The reason for starting a family so late (not that I am that old) is because we had tried several years prior, but had no luck and then I had a cancer diagnosis back in 2006 (bone tumor). I was on crutches for over a year, so we decided to put off starting a family during that time. After that time, I was a bit hesitant to start a family because of my age, but she wanted to, so we decided to start trying again with no luck. We finally went through IVF to have a child.

We were both SO excited to finally have our little family in place and I had my son! It just kills me that within a year of the most exciting time in our lives and all the crap that we went through prior to that, she decided to walk out on me and take my son with her. It just makes my head spin.

I feel like a ton of bricks has fallen on me. Wow, I am having a horrible week. I just walked in the door to my house from work and see that the W came by the house and took a bunch of things for her house she is staying in now. It is so hard to imagine that anything good will ever come out this sitch. I can't help but feel so much anger towards her right now.