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Cause it's still our anniversary. I couldn't just ignore it.

After I called back, I thought I shouldn't of.

any advice on what I should / shouldn't do tonight would be appreciated.

Well, for one, don't make contact with your wife. You called her and wished her a happy anniversary, she responded, now leave her alone.

Maybe, just maybe, she may take time to consider what it means to be alone on her anniversary. But she won't if you keep reaching out to her.

I wasn't planning on speaking to her again today, but I'll be picking her up at 5 for dinner and a show

...or you could do that, I guess.

Hope that works out for you.

We had booked the show and dinner last week. I was contemplating cancelling it, but I don't know if that would of been detremental or not.

I don't think she'll wear her wedding rings tonight, so I don't know if I should wear mine or not.

stu you need to act "as if" you expect it just to be a pleasant evening, wear you ring if you feel comfortable with that, my H took his off too but its just them making a point, what ever you do just make tonight a pleasant evening, treat her courtesly as you would taking someone out on a first date, dont overstep her boundaries so no invading her personal space unless she reaches out to you! Try and relax and no relationship talk, just be calm, happy, sassy and a bit sexy but not pursuing, just keep showing her what she has thrown away. You mention earlier that you have no choice but to give her a divorce, one thing you do have is choice at the moment, and you dont want to offer her options she may just take up.. Hope the evening goes well but try and get on here and read more of the threads, especially those about doing 180's and GAL. Will be thinking of you.

Thanks Rabbit.
I had always intended it to be just a pleasant evening, but it's gonna be hard to hide my true emotions, especially if she gives me the cold shoulder. I don't think she'll be readhing out to me at all tonight. I'd be happy if she would just put things aside and try to have a good time.

Rabbit, do you still wear your rings ? If you don't, has you H asked you about them ?