It's possible that that letter did do something to her. It may have brought her to reality. That and the kids are started to show signs of strain yesterday. I want her to stay because she wants to work things out.
To answer your question, yes I do want a sexual relationship with my wife. For no reason other than her wearing some new shoes, my labido swung into full gear in July after nearly a year. Now that I'm on my happy pill, I'm ready will and ABLE to take care of business. Not just mine but do the little thingy she likes me to do. The kids once told me they think mommy is starting to change her mind. The girl said the same the but she said mommy may want to torture you. I hope they know what they're talking about. I'll try your suggestions tonight.
BTW. Check out my horoscope.
Flirting is your favorite way to get attention and you aren't happy if even one person in the room is distracted by anything other than you. There's nothing wrong with trying to captivate the masses, Gemini, but it might help if you actually have something important or wise to say once you finally are on stage. Your communication skills are at their best, so giving a witty speech or tear-inducing toast should be no problem. The sound of applause is like music to your ears.
Ok, WHAT is the little thingy she likes you to do?? LOLOL
That is just too intriguing and curious to pass up!
Seriously, good luck tonight and I'm sure it was that letter that brought her back to what she perceives as "reality".
I think that she does want to punish you. I don't know much about your situation but I can tell you that there are times that I still want to punish my H for his lack of attention. Hell hath no fury, you know the rest.. So give her what she is needing from you and tell her what a fool you were and let her see that you are suffering sometimes.
P.S. Your libido was awakened by a pair of SHOES!?!? This just keeps getting better and better! What kind of shoes were they? I think I need to get some.
Quote: Ok, WHAT is the little thingy she likes you to do?? LOLOL
That is just too intriguing and curious to pass up!
Seriously, good luck tonight and I'm sure it was that letter that brought her back to what she perceives as "reality".
I think that she does want to punish you. I don't know much about your situation but I can tell you that there are times that I still want to punish my H for his lack of attention. Hell hath no fury, you know the rest.. So give her what she is needing from you and tell her what a fool you were and let her see that you are suffering sometimes.
P.S. Your libido was awakened by a pair of SHOES!?!? This just keeps getting better and better! What kind of shoes were they? I think I need to get some.
I'll have to think on it a little before I tell you the thingy. She once said I sucked because she won't be able to find anyone who will do it. She was on her way to the pool and she had on some Skechers type shoes. She has nice pretty toes and such. Hook those to the ankle and calf and....
Well it just came on like a light. I tried to get her to cancel her fun in the sun with her buddy. She did come home and we got together She had problems getting to the... well...climax. On our next couple tries she also had a little trouble and said she didn't know why. She said it wasn't me, it was her. Then again, she may have just been trying to be nice. It could be the length of time between session. Then everything meshed. I thought this was it until booom. I lose my job and she wants out.
Well. I'll put your advice to work when she get in and advise.
Ok, I was thinking about this and something just isn't adding up--are you really saying that your libido was re-awakened by a pair of SHOES?? This sounds so odd! Are you sure it wasn't that, on some level, you knew you were starting to lose her and it jolted you back to reality?
Regarding the climax thing..yes I have had that problem from time to time. It is caused by resentments and negative feelings that go along the lines of: "Why now? He hasn't wanted me for ages and all of a sudden he does! Why should I jump at the chance just because HE'S horny?! Why is everything on HIS schedule??" Etc.
These thoughts ruin the entire experience. I'm sure your wife is still very bitter and hurt. Good luck with melting all that away; it really sounds like you will be successful. Just keep showing her that she is desirable and make sure she knows it, no matter how quiet and dull her 'thanks' appear to be. She DOES want to hear it!
Quote: Ok, I was thinking about this and something just isn't adding up--are you really saying that your libido was re-awakened by a pair of SHOES?? This sounds so odd! Are you sure it wasn't that, on some level, you knew you were starting to lose her and it jolted you back to reality?
Hmmmm. You all think alike. This is exactly what she said. She said I knew it was coming to an end so that's why I started to get interested again. If that's the case, it would have to been deep inside. I didn't mention that this happened during a period when the kids were gone. This hasn't happened for a long time. Back when, we used to go at it anywhere. As far as the shoes, I will admit, I have a foot fetish as well. So there. I can't answer your theory. It just hit me like that.
I have another question, is lying from the W part of this. She has asked me on a couple occasions do I have a girlfriend which of course the answer is no. She said several of her guys friends said no man can go this long without cheating. Well I asked her how many people who know me think this. She then blurted out her best friends name. Well I bumped into the best friend today and she said she said not such thing. I believe her.I've also caught her in a couple more lies where this friend(a guy who I don't trust) said I would @#$#$. Well she reversed on that and said he meant I would try to get some from her. This friend has also suggested that me and her best friend are fooling around.
A couple people are telling me she is making up this stuff to get to me. Another example. She told me a vendor came in and asked her out for a date and gave her a bunch of roses. Well, why tell me this. I just told her this was proof that she was beautiful and moved on. But she couldn't produce the flowers.
Is the hurt that deep that she would lie like this or is this some attempt to make me jealous?? again.
I took honeypots advice and started with the compliments. Low and slow. She didn't appear to notice or said thank you in a low tone. On Friday, she put that girly shirt on again and said she was going to visit her friend which I believe. I only asked what the shirt said and didn't make anything of it. It's too tight for her but it was hot looking. The next time she wears it, I will let her know. I think she may be putting that on when she heads out to make me jealous. I don't know why someone who wants a D would want to make me jealous. Hopefully, that's a small good sign.
On Friday, I also decided to go out and meet a former co worker for drink. I shaved my head threw on a nice shirt and my aftershave. She was looking at me with a wary eye. I took my wedding band off to shave and didn't put it back on. I wore it around my neck.
According to the kids, mommy was kind of mad because she didn't know where I was going. I noticed she noticed the ring wasn't on. Kind of LRT showing that I could be going about my life. The next day, I was sleep on the bed and she woke me up with a gentle touch. I noticed she notice my ring back on and perked a little bit. Once again, I hope this is a good small sign.
Sunday she was gone all day with one of the kids and her friend and his wife and family. As she was gone after the dinner hour. I didn't cook and went to get something to eat. She called asking where I was. After telling her, she was mad because I didn't ask or tell her I was going out to eat. More LRT..I think. Calls back in 5 minutes to let me know she was mad but in a nice tone. I did the DB defense and diffused that. Came home and watched her check me out. I think she saw me looking at her legs.
This morning, I noticed she had "a ring" on her wedding finger. Not the wedding band. In a fit of anger several weeks ago before DB/DR I told her to move it. She did. I don't know if this wearing A ring on the wedding finger means anything. I think she noticed I noticed. Hmmmmmm. Helped in the yard pulling weeds and dead flowers. I rarely if ever help do this. I just wanted to. One reason to show the change that's going on and two to check her out when she bent over in her shorts:o It's times like this I.....
A little bummed out today. W made reference to the D last night. I still feel a little waffling. This morning gave compliments. For the first time, I got more that a low thanks. Let her see me checking her out again. Exchanging email from the jobs. Jokes and mundane stuff. I think I will try and slide something suggestive in there. Nothing that will get me fired. W made production of not putting alternate ring on wedding finger today. I wonder if this is an experiement on her part. If so, what result does she hope to achieve. She noticed me noticing alternate ring on wedding finger. Will meet her on job later for mundane stuff. Maybe an opp to talk and compliment. But, will she think this is a trick? She's all over the map for the past couple days, nice like the old days, hard like current day and in between other days.
Met W at job. Notice that after yesterday's production of not putting on alternate ring on wedding finger, she had one on her job. W was a little snappy because I misunderstood her instructions. Didn't compliment. Got a 'tude but didn't let it show. When leaving, it SEEMED that W was a little bummed that I didn't stay a bit longer after taking care of business. Her response was a low bye. I don't feel comfortable on her job. I'm sure her friends know. It's not like this time last year when she would show me off to them. Was this a sign that she wanted me to stay a little longer? And what for??
Feeling in the dumps a bit. Sad thinking about her and what we had. I feel some saddness coming in a wave from her. I still feel a connection to her. I think she still feels one to me. She seems to email me jokes at work when I'm down and need them. Hmmmmm.
This is confusing. I don't know what's going on other than I want my babe back in the worst way.
More to follow. Please feel free to offer advices based on these entries or anything else.
Yesterday was a in the dumps type day. I made the mistake of looking at wedding pictures on the mantle. I'm tempted to take them down. Everything reminded me of her. A smell, a ring tone, my Scooby Doo underwear she got me for Christmas.
This morning was ok. She decided to walk around with just bra on. She also decided today was the day to wear high heels. Woman why dost thou torment me. Had a litte talk about non R things. She noticed me checking her out. I just had to tell her she was hot. Today, I got a I can believe you're saying this type thanks. Hmmmmm. Honeypot you may be on to something.
What kind of shoes were they? I think I need to get some.
She had problems getting to the... well...climax. On our next couple tries she also had a little trouble and said she didn't know why. She said it wasn't me, it was her. Then again, she may have just been trying to be nice. It could be the length of time between session. Then everything meshed. I thought this was it until booom. I lose my job and she wants out. 
again. 