It is sad that they do not put the children's interests ahead of their own. I have felt the same way about my child. Of course, we want the best for our children and hate to see them hurt by all of this.
All we need to do is to continue to provide them with love and happiness. Let's enjoy all of our moments with them.
I do understand how hard it is to see our spouse in so much pain. I think that is what keeps us attached to them. We want them to get through this and become that person we knew in the past.
You are amazingly strong and doing the correct thing. You have to protect the business. Your ex has choices, he is doing this to his children.
Me: 46 H:44 Together: 25 years Married: 20 years Separated: 11-30-06 Divorced 12-21-07 OW: EA began 2005 PA began end of 2006 3 children,20, 16, 6 ex asked for forgiveness 01/16/11
XH very quiet He called in 2 orders to the office/called early purposely and left VM other than that NO word from him no return calls to kids I explained to my D 14 yesterday- Dad is sick He is on medication He no longer works with the business
she was sad I kept it brief, to the point and honest she has to know the truth she still doesnt know he is M and never met OW so that truth will come next I sense xh has to hibernate for now he has to figure out what will be next for him as far as work goes all I can say is the business is flowing in more and better The office is organized and peacful without him and everyone else is doing theeir expected jobs peace
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So sad what the kids have to go through, but from all the stories I hear, it just seems like an inevitable part of the process. Doesn't mean it will always be this way though.
Hope it's some relief to you that you don't have to see him on a daily basis.
Grace thanks for your support Yes, the office seems to be peaceful we havew even restored a customer that xh lost God is behind this I could never do it
SH It is sad for the kids
BF and I are doing well it is 4 plus months of dating/8 of friendship the R seems to be everything I need right now Not sure where it will go, but just trying to enjoy the moments and let go of the need to knbow the future so Im grateful
I think if things would stabalize one way oe the other with xh either he gets clean and works on himself or I totally accept letting him go regarding business and kids I can focua moew on myself my new R and where im going right now I have a lot of parts of the business to learn many of it I did not know so im busy enough peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
xh called D out of the blue yeaterday He said he was coming over to take kids out first time in 3-4 weeks, he has seen tham first time he has returned a call to them in a while XH picked them up outside I was relieved as O thought he would pick a fight with me over money or our business which he is no lonmger working at he had D call me to tell me certain customers had called him during the past week to give me information so I dont know what he is upo to D said he had money and spent a bit on them, but he is not working so Im glad he had money I sense He may walk away from business or is he waiting? to see what he will get meanwhile the busienss continues to HEAL from all his abuse and I comtimue to know I did the right thing by asking him to go peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
I have a friend I think in mLc she calls me for support I hear her story same as we have heard she never shoulf have M him it was never right there is no going back he is standing she hates the sight of him came on quickly as when I went thru it she was working on her M and was supportive of me then Boom OM in picture but its not working out he is totally unavaialable it is so weird to go theu it first hand I encourage her to NOT date but to work on herself she is very pulled to other men and wants a new R one thing is for sure In this sitcuation she is not going back anttime soon and I believe from what I hear she will NOT EVERR return she says its like a point you cross where youn work so hard in the M and she says she did and I know she has tried in the past but its gets beyond the point of NO return I think thats wehat happened to my M too and the OP justs pulls them right out peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
I called xh yesterday heard nothing from him in about a week he is in hiding no calls to kids he said he is looking for work and broke He last worked at our business over 3 weeks ago the business is running better without him..
I felt bad for him he seemed confused on phone filing for unemployment the crises has taken everything from him he shows no attempt to stop the meds eventhough I though I made it clear to him he could work again in the business if he were clean from the prescription drugs
I dont know if /when he will call the kids they are now adjusting to seeing him when ever 1x a month maybe he seemed still very angry at me he didnt like my boundries but I am so glad I set them or I would walking on eggshells with the business and kids for the rest of my life with him Id rather be without him totally if that is my choice peace
married 14 years H 42 bomb 2/07 IDLYA D final 3 /09 M ow D ow
