Hi K! Things are as well as can be expected - thanks for asking. Match.com has been interesting to say the least. I've emailed back and forth a few women and have actually taken the step to meet up with one. Went over more like a job interview and there really wasn't much of a spark there, but it was nice to get out and be with the other gender even if for innocent coffee. It's okay because I'm not in a hurry to start anything. What I would really like is to find someone who is interesting and would like to go out occasionally for a movie, dinner, etc. If it leads to something more than that would be great, but I don't intend to rush anything.
Being separated has been pretty strange so far. My WAW comes by everyday to take our oldest D to school in the morning, so I see her pretty much everyday. We are pleasant to one another, more of a distant brother-sister relationship. No intimacy at all other than the obligatory hug goodbye.
In the state I am in we have a required 1 year period of separation before a divorce can be granted, so it will still be awhile for finality to happen for me. I used to think that was a good thing, however as time goes by I'm not so sure I'm excited about waiting another 10 months for this. I mean what is the point if she has no interest to reconcile and my interest is evaporating by the day. I really think if she all of a sudden changed her mind and wanted to come back that I would be right where you are with my emotions about that.
Thanks for resurrecting my thread - I have been meaning to post an update (even though not much is new) and you gave me a good opportunity to do that. By the way not sure if you know it or not - but we are friends on FB. My initials are DK and I have no profile picture.
Hi s4h...I'm just checking in on you. It sounds like you are slowly moving toward acceptance and toward a better mental position.
Just wanted to tell you that you have friends and people care about you. This journey is likely only the beginning to a whole new life for you, one which you will be very happy in. A lot of work between now and then, but in the end, you'll find happiness.
Your girls will have happiness too, because they have you no matter what.
Hey DQ! Thanks for stopping by. You hit the nail on the head, I am slowly moving into acceptance. It's certainly not the path that I would have chosen, but I am recognizing that it can eventually lead to happiness and an even better life of my choosing.
Acceptance is good, I agree with you. It brings peace. And that's what we are all after anyway, right? Stay on course and strong, xx K
Peace would be so nice right about now. The peace of knowing I have someone in my life who has my back, who is loyal to me, who is willing to be a true loving partner. Doesn't seem to much to ask for, but so hard to find...
Hey, you know how many nights last year I came to post my dad was going thru tough times, my kids were a mess and I was worse than all of them? Many!!! And there were a bunch of people here that had my back... It doenst have to be ONE. We can be many. THAT one will come along when the time is right... xxxxxxxxxx K
