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THANKS EVERYONE

yeah im fine, I still have questions that will never be answered but it sounds lke she is staying there for some time now... her mom says she is 75% back but IDK guess i dont care to know really. it would only make me think about her more. just that she is in the hands of people who will help her is good enough


the no talking is great! it's helped me so much i only wish she would have agreed to this a long timeago

Hi WL, how are things going over the weekend?

Well I got my own life I had a sad morning at first but, my friends have there own lives and drama which has me so buisy. I left my phone at home this morning so I missed 7 texts from MIL...

MIL called told me crazy stuff! ..........

im writing a book and putting the kids through school on this stuff!!!!! (i cant make this stuff up!)

in short W is getting out next weekend. all her friends are in bad trouble with the law, drugs people snitched on just one big crazy crazy bust.. OM has a broken leg i guess.. someone came after him. (dealer idk maybe Ws family did it MIL just says someone came after him)

MIL says he is last one that will go. her one friends is going back up north. others have split town already

this all sounds like a movie to me. I really cant belive this is going on. my one friend said its good W left because this is all out of my house/town and i have little to do with it. MIL has been doing the work

W still blames me for everything.. I told MIL W is NOT allowed by my house when she gets out.

W called for the kids again today but since i had a LONG crazy night and LONG morning with 3 hours sleep. I was gone for that call too! right now with all the stuff ive been doing I just dont have too much time for W i do get pissed at how she screwed me and the kids money wise but having friends with there own life and problems (car issues this morning that took up the day) is nice and keeps my mind buisy.

Hi WL. Are you coming up with a plan about how to deal with W's release? Or has she already gotten out? Do you know if she has impending legal trouble like her friends? I wouldnt be surprised if they made an example out of her!

I think that you should write a book! You could compile some of the crazy stuff that has gone on here and have a movie deal!

I hope that things are going well for you!

oh she got out on tuesday why IDK because she then decided to hangout with her no good friends that helped her get to this point.

MIL talked to me for a very long time told me W is BIpolar and manic depressed.. (and is why she blames me for all her problems)

for some reason W does not want me to know what she has(WTF?) maybe cuz i said that the whole time?? anyway she is still selfish as ever... since she got out no contact with the kids again so it just shows where her mind is.

only thing good is she is on probation so if she get caught with drugs or anything in her blood work she goes to jail

my lawyer got a call from the police looking for her but idk why because they dont have a WARR. so beats me why they called my lawyer

I told my lawyer she is living at her parents house so I guess he can let them know. (I still cant belive she thinks 28 almost 29 living with mom and dad (where BTW she hated!!! living befor)and no contact or at the very least limited contact with the only kids she has and will beable to have is what she feels is best, no job, bills up everywhere just a mess)

just so sick of this and her blamming me? it really gets to me for some reason. prob cuz i was too nice and yet again im passed off as her problem and a jerk

ive joined acouple dating sites maybe I will make some friends and if it happens meet a great woman.

Hi WL. Im sorry about the stress. I would recommend that you do some research on Bipolar Disorder, Manic Depression is what they used to call Bipolar. Also, there are some threads on here with a WAS who was bipolar. And honestly, the more you know about it, the more you can keep an eye out for it in your kids, though I firmly beleive that family support and strong social connections can overcome a lot of genetic predispositions.

Its a tough one, but just like anything else, your W isnt going to change until she doesnt want to be sick anymore, I guess she hasnt quite hit rock bottom yet. You know, Im really glad that you are in the place the you are now, things might be very different right now if you hadnt been able to detach like you have. And her going back to her druggie friends is no surprise, shes could be trying to self medicate. I have also noticed that the people who I know that struggle with their bipolar disorder can sometimes be very selfish people.

I joined match.com, I looked at some of the other ones, and they seemed like they were just an online equivalent of the bar. eHarmony wouldnt do anything for me because Im not D yet... imagine, some people still have morals!

Im still working on the detaching dont let me fool you i can walk through the house or see one of the tv shows we used to watch and it brings me right back to the walk out day.

I guess her mom had my hopes up that she would be getting better but i dont see it anytime soon.

the kids are pissed at her for always bailing out and the lies..

D8 wrote her a letter and sent it to her with her maiden name.. I was shocked she did that and when i asked she said because mommy lives with grandma and grandpa and thats there name

I was reading on the bipolar and it seems like detecting it in teens is the hot toppic now but yeah the manic depressed is just part of it so IDK guess MIL is confused seems very common for bipolar people to blame the spouses or parents (the closest people) for all there troubles and find any fault they can in them to justify the feelings they have

only sad part is she seems to be on a low that wont come up. most posts talk about weeks or days for lows and highs even seasons but years?? she must be in very bad shape.

yeah I did a search plenty of fish i joined but a free site i think was just wrong not much there IMOP

out of all the pay sites it looked like more people had luck with match.com and after joining its far better than plenty of fish.


and as always BR thanks for checking in on me some one needs to

Hi WL, I have a very close friend who can cycle hourly on a bad day. Its all very different for everyone. And the things that are going on around her could be making her good days still not very good, or the drugs that she may have been using, and drinking could be influencing it too.

I also think that bipolar is overdiagnosed...IMO, but thats a different conversation!

I have been pretty impressed with match.com, I just wish that ALL of the guys werent 250 miles away! Theres only one man who is in the town I live in!

Take care WL. It sounds like your kids are coming to terms with things?

I did talk to MIL again last night and she says W is still doing better, MIL is upset W hangs with her new friends and had told her about her concerns...

MIL did tell me there is alot of issues W has to deal with and it is much deaper than the bipolar issue.


Yeah lots of people on match.com here but idk its all so knew I dont know how to start... plus it looks like alot of the women around here are not interested in men who were once married (?)

well I turn 30 this weekend so It looks like a bunch of us are going out!

Happy (early) Birthday!!!

Ill bet that she has lots of issues. Shes had a lifetime of poor coping skills to develop them. I guess that all you can do is take care of you and the kids and hope that things work out for her!

I had the same problem when I very first started on match.com. Honestly I like it when someone contacts me first. I guess that you just start with what caught your eye about their profile. Also, I tend to beleive that once you start getting a little bit older, 30s or so, if someone hasnt been married, theres might be a pretty good reason! So, I wouldnt be discouraged, besides, I also feel a little less anxious when they are divorced, like theres a shared experience, like I will have less explaining to do I suppose. Just wink at a few cuties and see what happens!