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I meant to tell you before, but the quote you have is one I was using earlier this year. Great minds you know!!

I tried to get ex's name off the homeowners but since he is still on the deed I can't. When he filed bankruptcy it pretty much stopped anything that I could do myself with the house. So maybe in another 3-4 years when his is discharged I can do all that fun stuff.

And well as far as taking you off the business stuff, you are still a part owner of the business, I don't think he can be doing that. Double check with your L.

Have an incredible day!

kat

I had trouble getting my ex off a mastercard. He hadn't even used the card in over 10 years. Ended up having to close it.... and even that took his written permission. That seemed so silly, but thinking of the reverse I am glad you can be protected, Yoyo.

Thinking of you!!!

Hi Mattie,

I hope things are going better for you.

I think homesickness is starting to hit DD18 who is a freshman in college. She came home this past weekend and plans on coming home this weekend. As much as I enjoy seeing her, I really want her to enjoy the college life.

Haven't got to see much of Mr. A lately. He is an accountant for a large corporation. He is so busy trying to get the budget ready and to top that off, his mother had to have emergency hernia surgery last week. She lives about an hour away, so he was meeting himself coming and going this past week. He stopped by my house for about 30 minutes last night after he finally left work at 8:30pm on his day off.

Had some interesting happenings this past weekend. The son of our friends (STBXH and mine) is getting married in November. I helped host an engagement party for him and his bride at the country club Sat. night. Lots of our friends were there. My cohostesses decided to keep the drama down and not invite STBXH even though all of their spouses came. They didn't trust him not to bring the OW. Honestly, I would not either. I appreciated they did that for me. The father of the groom came up and congratulated me in a very nice and sincere voice. I asked him for what. He said I heard you have a boyfriend and I'm very happy for you. I said I have a friend. He said well, I'm just glad you found someone you like being with. I said well, you know I have been through hell these past three years. He said I know you have and that's why I'm happy for you. This is a man who has been a friend of my stbxh for over 30 years.

Also STBXH's cousin asked his wife if I was dating. She played dumb and told him not that she knew of. He said, so she's not dating. The wife said, not that I know of. The cousin said, well, I didn't think so.

Sounds like STBXH maybe talking...don't know why he would tell everyone. Why he even worry about what I'm doing. I guess he is trying to justify that it is okay for him to have OW, since I have a "bf". Difference is that my "bf" came almost three years after our breakup and did not cause it.

Makes me so glad that I will soon be free of him!

Hi Yoyo. I am enjoying my new job. Have just a short term lease on an apt and I haven't bothered to unpack most of the boxes since I was planning on finding a house. However, now I think I'll just stay in the apt a while longer since I am not eager to move again and haven't even felt like house hunting. That tells me I am not ready! I have a touch of homesickness now and then, too! Although usually I don't mind being alone and find myself to be decent company!

Hi Yoyo glad to hear you doing great.

Could it be that soon to be X is coming out of the fog?

Mat,

Maybe you should unpack and once you do you may find the need to find a bigger place. Hope you aer at least making friends and doing something outside of your aapartment. Even though it is nice to be by yourself sometimes.

JAK

Hi Mattie and JAK,

So nice to hear from you both.

Mattie, definitely one advantage to an apartement is no yard upkeep or house maintenance!!!

Jo,
I'm not sure he is coming out of his fog...more like he can not believe I have the "nerve" to see someone else. In his warped mind he probably believes I am wrong for moving on after three years. Even if he is coming out of his fog, there has been so much damage done, I could never trust him again. He continues to take OW openly out in public...so I don't see any regret in his actions.

It took me over two years to come to the realiization that I am better off with him...but it such a nice feeling now!!! Yes, I mourn for my old marriage and my intact family, but he has made that impossible. I do not however mourn the fact that he is with her and not me...she won the prize...one I am glad to give up.

Yoyo,

So sad to be him if he ever comes back to earth.

I almost think that I may finally be getting to a place of peace in my heart.I have been drawing alot of insight off the MLC archives. From hearts blessings threads on page 82, six stages and it has helped me to put things in order.

Still working on the M but in a different way now.
Holding H accountable for his fantasy to OW and being supportive and patient as long as he is willing to work on us and not her. The line has been drawn in the sand so to speak and i am working on what I want more now. Things have been good. One day at a time.

How goes it with A/BF?

JAK

Received this in an email today... thought it was worth sharing.

Subject: Fw: Cheap protection and legal

You no longer need to keep your .45 or AK-47 sitting out on the coffee table... a can of wasp spray will do! Never would have thought it !!!A receptionist in a church in a high risk area who was concerned about someone coming into the office on Monday to rob them when they were counting the collection. She asked the local police department about using pepper spray and they recommended to her that she get a can of wasp spray instead. The wasp spray, they told her, can shoot up to twenty feet away and is a lot more accurate, while with the pepper spray they have to get too close to you and could overpower you. The wasp spray temporarily blinds an attacker until they get to the hospital
for an antidote. She keeps a can on her desk in the office and it doesn't attract attention from people like a can of pepper spray would. She also keeps one nearby at home for home protection. You could also keep it in your car and it's perfectly legal. Thought this was interesting and might be of use...especially for your loved ones!

yoyo... interesting.. I'll have to remember that.

Hope you are well!

I met a really inspiring woman yesterday. we were both standing waist deep in the Gulf, with nothing else to do, so we started talking. After sharing the usual information, she told me something I'd never heard before. Her husband was a diabetic and had needed a kidney transplant, so she was tested, and they found that she was a good enough match for him, so she donated a kidney to her husband! Six years ago. And they both are doing well! She said the doctors told her this added 20 years to his life. Her eyes lit up and she said, "I thought about how great it would be if we could be together for 20 years!" Wow! That is love!