i just read my post above....just to clarify, when i write I did say I miss my old life, what I meant to say is that I wrote it here. Nobody outside of these boards knows this.
John - I think this is where our feelings are a bit different. I know my X misses me also and she still says "honey" to me on the phone and still has a picture of us together as her Windows Live Messenger display picture. However, I have no desire to be in a one on one lunch or dinner senario with her. She just kind of gives me the creeps when she gazes at me. But if re-living some old times works for you and you are comfortable, then I say do it.
How do you think NGF would feel about it?
BTW... I am still a kid. The kids have multi shot rubber band gun pistols with rotating targets. I still play with those since the X took all the real pistols in the divorce.
Had a great week with D8. Montreal Jazzfest, Soccer in the park, her first golf game and we are heading to the stables for her riding lesson in a few hours. Afterwards, i have told her that NGF and i are spending the evening at the Jackson Browne concert possibly accompanied by either an early or late supper. Golfing with the boys tommorow afternoon as D8 heads back for a week with XW. No further contact from XW after last odd phone conversation which is probably a good thing. NGF and I are getting along well. She an D8 get along famously. I on the other hand have a slight problem with her kids but it is far from being major. It is just that I find that they take advantage of their mom (do not help out unless threatened ...lol)a little too much...but if she is enabling it, who am i to judge. So, a nice weekend in store........
No matter who you connect with, there will always be something that is not perfect. I would even imagine that NGF may have something she sees in you that is a slight flaw. You take the good with the bad.
BTW... Coincedently, a gal I have been chatting with has an X husband from Montreal. Oh, and she approached me first. She is from Malaysia. I am starting to see a SE Asia pattern now. Life is funny at times.
ME, a flaw???? Surely you jest....you want them in alphabetical order? I am not looking for perfection.....far from it. As long as the good outweighs the bad, then I am all in to at least continue the journey. kerry, you wrote something on your thread about "the rest of my life" and I did not comment on it. When I did read it, i hesitated. I guess the last year or so has affected my long term goals. I am not sure the rest of our lives is attainable. I used to be all about the rest of our lives.....now it is one day at a time. Recently some friends and i were talking about relationships and one lady mentionned that her brother who is my age just married a 28 year old....roughly 20 years difference. the general consensus was that the long term viability of the relationship was questionable. My response was that the long term viability of any relationship is suspect....so why even sweat it.
How active to keep the kids is a good question. I stopped being my daughter's primary entertainer when she'd come up and constantly say, "I'm bored." Initially I'd suggest play dates with her friends, outings, sleep overs, etc. Finally I figured it was her job to initiate.. afterwards, I'd help.
I love all the difference experiences you provide your daughter. My anxiety over big crowds kept me from doing many of the things you're doing with your daughter that sound so fun.
A good rule of thumb.. if you feel like it's too much it probably is.. and vice versa.
It's great reading about how your life is, what's working, what's intriguing. I appreciate your thoughts and caring on my thread.
My response was that the long term viability of any relationship is suspect....so why even sweat it.
