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I never realized how crazy some of this can be. Makes me really appreciate the good times that we did have. I'm torn on her moving out.

You can love the person the she was and smile. I still love thast woman I married 7 years ago. She was a wonderful wife and companion. But the reality is that she doesn't exist anymore. The memories we had, I still consider a gift and will always cherish.

The thing is that people change over the years and a marriage must change with it.

Tonight I stopped and bought food to make a dinner tonight....a special one. I don't expect anything in return. She said I was setting myself up for disappointment. I didn't let her see that her saying that hurt. I really want to go throw it all in the garbage but i'm going to make it with a smile.

She said she is still signing her lease tomorrow. This would be so much easier if we didn't the greatest kids....

Well she's packing stuff while I am typing this.....guess she is going through with this and its really over

Found out she moving into a 2 BR apt with 3 kids. She must really want out of here.

This is a rough time - I remember.

However, I recall that after W moved out, she eventually started hanging out, and we got to the point where we were spending 7-8 hours in a day as a family, and were together probably 5-6 days a week.

Unfortunately, she has severe emotional issues, but in a normal scenario, it would have been at the minimum a great friendship, and the best case, a reconciliation...

Keep your chin up. Stand firm on this separation, it is not all it'll be cracked up to be, and the temptation is to extend helpful hands as a way of "being the nice guy", but don't forget she is giving up "husband privileges".

I'm praying for you. The first few days are very, very, very hard. Keep on the boards and keep track of positives. The negatives lurk around every corner.

It's not over 'till its over. Continue to take care of yourself. You will get through it.

Thanks guys. Wish you were here so I could buy a round for you guys.

Mine has emotional issues....she is just starting to realize it and I hope they don't take her over before she gets help.

I will stand tall on this separation. I prefer to call it that....she will say we are just doing this until we get divorced but I know not to believe everything she says.

Her head is empty and she is running on emotion right now.

It gets better....I will see her almost every day. Our youngest D is too young to get on the bus by herself so the W will bring the SD by my (our) house every morning because the W is moving outside of the school boundaries. Then she will have to pick up the SD every day and the D if it is her week. It is actually convenient for both of us.

I really have to find that line between helping her out and not enabling her because this was her decision. Pisses me off that the 3 kids are being shoved into a room together because she wants to "find herself".

I will be back here often...

Hang in there my friend. My XW has mental/ emotional issues as well. The day she left, I remember her saying "it's my turn to be selfish." I felt that all the work I had done for the past year meant nothing to her. But now, all this time since, she sees that I had made the effort to change and it was good. In fact, becuase I had worked on myself and changed, she got the insiration to get help and goto therapy.

In a way, separation may provide the separation your wife needs to get a handle on things and see the situation more clearly. Perhaps even miss you. Stick with GALs!